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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"Thanks for all the messages, very much appreciated Its been a long road to get back to some sort of normality and desire for life again but I'm getting there. The icing on the cake will be getting my partner over from the Philippines just in time for Christmas. Another 3 points on the road always brings a smile too. Irons"

"Well done everyone, and welcome back Steve. Made my day see you on here."

"I read this thread often and with great interest, but not having never suffered from MI I really have very little (apart from support) to offer. However I did lose my cousin to depression (alcohol finally taking him) several years ago. I knew absolutely nothing about his troubles. He hid it, and the excessive drinking that accompanied it, very well, until the damage was done. I read this thread and see others who are unfortunately suffering, or have suffered, offering unconditional support to each other. As it should be (in my humble), regardless of who we support. Dean was a hammer. How I wish I, and indeed others close to him, knew of his pain. But what strikes me most is how I wish he had access to this thread, to seek the help he needed and the support of others who’ve walked the same road. To those who offer support on this thread, and those that seek it, I salute you all!"

"Blimey, what a pleasant surprise Steve. Great to hear you’re doing well and on the up. I’m sure things will fall into place for you now and this thread definitely helps. A problem shared is a problem halved."

"Great to hear Steve is safe and well, we are all rooting for you and any others who are struggling"

"Big love to all you boys. Keep sharing, it really helps. You’ve helped me as well, more than you will know. I totally understand you taking a break from the internet Steve, I have done the same and it helps to clear the head from all the noise we get around us these days. Not all of that noise is online, but it plays a big part so it does help to switch off for a stretch. I’m also delighted you’re still here and finding a way. Thanks for updating us mate. I’m going to offer my number to anyone (via Whomail) who needs a chat. I haven’t got all the answers at all, but I’ve been on the brink a few times and it helps to share coping strategies. Big hugs to you all xx"

Steve you sound like exactly where I am mate. Good for you. This thread is such a positive one I love it. I wish all on here all the best. Life can be hard but the Irons family is there for everyone COYI xxx

"What words fit? Great news that you are managing this, Steve - you've taken a thread that was already heading ""in the right direction"" even further so. I say that as a complete outsider here as I really struggle to get a handle on what many on here are going through - but you are West Ham, so I suspect I'm not alone when I say we're all behind you (ooh- err, mrs.). Post more - even if it is just to call me a complete twat."

Great news . Well done Steve .

Fair play to you Steve Good to hear from you and keep your pecker up mate

Well this thread has turned out to be a lifesaver for many and to hear from Steve is like the icing on the cake. Let's a help one another get all the problems straightens out that need to be straightened out and put down next year as one of the best we have all had for along time. Steve everything ur doing makes sense..westham67 knows all about that stuff so reach out to him. Very happy news that is. Made my day. üëç

"That's very good news Steve I am glad you managed to get yourself right . If you need some advice about visas you can get a 6 month visit visa of a settlement visa which means she could work For the 6 month visit visa you or another party has to sponsor her for living cost for 6 months. A letter , bank statements and a tenancy agreements"

"Good afternoon everyone, thought I would just check in and let you all know that everything is okay. Thank you seriously to everyone who has messaged and commented to see if I was okay I took some time away from the Internet, social media etc Took some me time and hit the gym, put myself into work which is a health kick in itself, eating better etc and have a better out look on life now. A big part of my life now is trying to get my on/off girlfriend here from the Philippines. Having someone around who want syo be with me, sharing problems with her and spending time just not being on my own with my thoughts will help me move on from pretty much a bad year, mentally. The hammers having a good season so far and watching us hold our own in Europe surely helps to have a brighter outlook aswell. Again everyone, thank you all for the messages, I really appreciate it. Hope everyone else is doing alright and enjoying our Europe's league exploits so far. Ironsss"

"Its like lego, just keep building everyday and doing a bit more each time. I'm getting better and better. I'm enjoying the boxing chat on here. Also my boys 3rd brithday on Saturday so I got that to look forward to and then west ham Sunday so already I have things to look forward to at end of this week so it makes this week worthwhile. I think my missus is off a week later for half term (she a teacher) so then that's my next thing to look forward to cos then we can do things as a family. I love you lot too. Never forget that. All of you."

Pentonville 12:37 Mon Oct 11 Well done. That’s a really positive day. And you did it yourself. That’s brilliant. Hope your still enjoying the feeling

"Been struggling the last few days, over the last month the boy has been quite poorly, which I've caught off him - on top of having norovirus twice and this fucking chest an throat infection. Throwing in the lack of sleep due to the baby not being well and unsettled, I'm feeling absolutely fucked and run down. Need a break, had little to no time for myself with so much going on at the weekends, where I usually take a day to go fishing which really helps my mental state but not having had that, has seen me struggle a fair bit."

Best weekend for ages. Saturday went shopping with family and decided to take this tourist train on wheels that I've always resisted going round cannes cos I thought u looked like a tourist knob but did it and found out loads about my town which really cheered me up and made me feel like I belonged a bit more. I won't lie I did have a irosh coffee for lunch before I did it but under the watchful care of my wife. Was just to loosen me up a bit. Then Saturday evening watched football and then set alarm for fury fight. Sunday was nice cos wife went out so I sat alone watching football kid free. Woke up today feeling 'normal'. Having sport to talk about takes ur mind of stuff. The important thing for ur brain is to have something to care about. That's when I find I start to win again. To care about outside of family I mean.

Jesus I messaged him too ages ago. Little did I know what was coming round the corner at me. I really hope he is ok. Can't a mod look at his login details and find an email address

I whomailed Steve a few weeks abo but nothing back

I whomailed Steve a few weeks abo but nothing back

Good to see such positivity on here and fellow Whoers managing/sorting out their troubles one way or another and making good progress. Really is a great tonic and one that I’m sure will help everyone achieve their goals. We just need Stevethehammer to let us know he’s safe and well. Anyone heard anything? Deeply concerning now.

"On a thread about anxiety/depression that's probably the worst advice imaginable. Might as well say ""just drink more booze"""

"You’ll be much happier if you just dump the missus and smoke more weed. Did you mix the cannabis with tobacco? That might be the cause of your withdrawal issues. There is nothing wrong with smoking weed, the sooner it’s legal the better."

"I woke up today feeling more depressed than I've felt in years. I thought it was probably to do with the massive row I had with the missus last night. I've been smoking weed daily since the Pandemic but for health reasons (and cost reasons) I decided to knock it on the head for a few months. Even though I've smoked cannabis on and off for most of my adult life I had no idea how severe withdrawal was until Googling it today. Though it's short term compared to other drugs, it's not a nice feeling. Night sweats, loss of appetite, and severe depression. Just say no, kids!"

"For what it's worth, I always found - and still find - domestics an excellent way to relax/unwind. Ironing: fuck all to worry about except getting rid of the creases. I've literally had to wrestle the iron off of some of the bints I've lived with - they felt it was their duty to do all that shit and never understood me fucking them off over it. Anyhow. Good news, Pents, and you seem to have inspired 3 others to follow the right road. Best wishes to you all."