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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"MPI... was in a similar position this time last year... got offered VR which I accepted and stuck all the dosh straight into my pension... on the terms I got it allowed me to take my pensions early (55) without pens... the lump sum paid off every debt that I had ... mortgage, car loans, credit cards all paid up... for the first time since I was 16yo I was completely debt free... it's a nice feeling.... also put some money into a lifetime ISA for my daughter so when she is ready there will be £20k as a deposit. So got my monthly pension which takes care of all bills and food and still leaves me with £1k a month excess... the other handful from work that got the same deal as me all properly retired... they do fuck all .... I didn't want to be in that same situation but did not again want that master and slave routine that had the last 40 years... so I decided to help a few old girls out that needed a gardener ... started off with two... now up to a dozen... mainly maintenance but also jet washing, patios etc... probably on average 12-15 hours a week and basically the dosh earnt (prob a monkey a month) is basically my beer/going out money... worked through out the winter and even on the days when it was pissing down and freezing cold... it was still 100 times better than the last 5 years or so in my old job... in fact I was offered a contractual role part time in my old job a few months after i left.... didnt have to think twice before telling them to do one... I am one of the lucky ones... I meet up normally fortnightly with my old crowd and they look like rabbits caught in headlamps... just like I used to... best decision I ever took was getting out... can always earn a penny out there and it's far more fulfilling than it ever was before.... take the plunge and best of luck fella"

"I took redundancy in 1992 and kept myself busy for the first few months with my l4th year OU studies. Plan was to do one of those ""round the world"" trips after that but that never happened as I kind of drifted into supplying IT support for local businesses, which kept me occupied for a while. To cut out all the babble, the only advice I'd offer to people considering retiring is ""find something to to - even if it's rug making or tapestry"" I retired twice and got tempted back into work because there was simply nothing to hold my interest and fill my day. Strangely enough, now I've retired for the 3rd and final time I seem to have less time to do stuff than I ever had before, but I'm not complaining."

"Mr A, Thanks for that honest share, that is my great fear that I take the parachute payment, jump and look for meaningful work like a charity or voluntary org but they dont want me :-) There has been some meaningful movement in one area in last 24 hours after two months of being ghosted so WHO has solved the problem."

"MPI, sorry to hear that, I stupidly took voluntary redundancy few years backing think will have a bit of travel then walk into another job, was a month before COVID! watching our account go down during lockdown and worrying about losing the house was easily the most stressful time of my life. Hope you get it sorted soon and back to winding people up in no time"

"NJ, Thanks fella, it will pass, I just need to keep things simple and keep in mind this will most likely end up as an opportunity. My immediate goals are not to let them frustrate me enough that I tell them to 'Stick their corporate flag up their arse' before I collect the bonus and redundancy package' and to have a couple of plans for onward employment that suit my life and my solvency needs :-)"

"Hope it all goes alright for you MPI, you've always been a solid support for me and best wishes in getting back to being an annoying chipper little cսnt!!"

"Hi chaps, Not been very WHO present due to work goings on around redundancy, with a with a long lead time and a doubled workload as a parting last quarter gift. I have options which makes me extremely lucky but picking the right one or passing up something and regretting it, well lets just say I have been withdrawn, deep in thought and not my usual happy go lucky self recently. I have support and will rise, but not able to give a lot. Big love to you all, as usual, here's hoping I can get some resolution and go back to being the annoyingly chipper litle cսnt you know and loathe :-)"

"Hi chaps, Not been very WHO present due to work goings on around redundancy, with a with a long lead time and a doubled workload as a parting last quarter gift. I have options which makes me extremely lucky but picking the right one or passing up something and regretting it, well lets just say I have been withdrawn, deep in thought and not my usual happy go lucky self recently. I have support and will rise, but not able to give a lot. Big love to you all, as usual, here's hoping I can get some resolution and go back to being the annoyingly chipper litle cսnt you know and loathe :-)"

"Haven’t been on here for a bit , so sad to hear that New Jersey , all the best in how you cope with things mate X"

"I've just popped in to say hello and see how you're doing? Hold steady chaps, it might not feel it but spring is just around the corner, you've made it this far through another shitty winter and hopefully things will improve with a bit of sun on our backs. I sincerely wish you all the best."

"New Jersey - your post really touched me. You’ll never meet me or likewise I’ll never probably ever get to speak to you, but sending lots of love your way, that must be the hardest thing ever to deal with."

NJ - that's rough mate and you seem to be moving in the right direction which must take incredible strength.. All the best

As others have said NJ there are no rambles on here. So glad you have got some kind of support to help you. If there is anything we can help with please let us know

New Jersey 6:12 Tue Feb 20 I cannot imagine the grief you must be going through mate So sorry for you loss buddy Ramble away this is why this thread is pinned its for every WHOer in distress to share

"Sorry for your loss NJ. Post as much as you want and need to on here. If it helps in any way, that's what we are all here for."

"My thoughts are with you NJ, sending a virtual hug X"

"NJ There is no timeline, set pattern or formula to grief. Yours is you unique to you individually and to your family as a collective. Thank you for posting, we really must pick a game to meet up. I owe you a hug."

"Best Wishes NJ, so sorry for your loss."

Never forgotten NJ üôè

.....Thank you for being brave enough to write about it as well......

"New Jersey, you bloody well ramble on as much as you want, as it is a huge 'get things in perspective' lesson for all of us."

"IIt's just over six months since I lost my son, Simon, in a car accident on his way to Bournemouth to watch us at the start of the season. I'm forever grateful for the messages of support from WHO and the bouquet MPI and other sorted, it meant so much. Even now the grief at times is unbearable and if I'm not distracted I think about him all the time. Each day it's difficult to get up but we do and keep ourselves busy and we've had fantastic support from all of our friends. I feel I've made a little progress as I've started to do things because I want to not just to occupy my time. Although it took a while to get it, I'm having bereavement counselling with St Barnabus Hospice and its been absolutely brilliant in helping me cope. One thing that really stuck out was the counsellor said you may see grief as a stone in a jar and there's not much room for anything else but in time, hopefully the gap around the grief stone will get larger and you might be able to cope with other things and she's right. We have in time been able to live more of a ,normal life' but the grief is still there. It's particularly deep at the moment but hopefully it will subside but never go away, not that I want it too really. I also speak to two other parents who have lost a grown up child who reached out to us when it happened and I'm so glad they did as I've found that really helpful. Sorry to ramble on but I just wanted to say something."

I know from personal experience that 50 grand plus is doable in casino playing cards

"""Any other addiction you cannot do 50 grand in a session"" That sounds like a challenge."

People don't understand how destructive a gambling is. Any other addiction you cannot do 50 grand in a session I gamble responsibly is pathetic that wont deter anyone from gambling. Its like saying I take cocaine and heroin responsibly There is legislation coming through but being watered down to keep the tax rolling in