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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"Thanks fellas, yesterday was a big day as she's finally been able to talk to her family about it and is now talking to her health care assistant and doctor. Looks like meds are the way forward in the short-term and we take each day as it comes."

"Driz, sorry to hear mate. Don't know much about it, being a bloke an all, maybe one of the Ladies on hear might know about post natal depression, it's common apparently? This NHS link might help, if your Lady has it sounds like she will need help, therapy or other to help her get through it. https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-natal-depression/symptoms/"

"Driz, WHOmail."

"Hey guys, Don't really know why I'm writing anonymously in a forum, I guess it is an outlet in a world where I don't really have many and my closest have their own problems. My world is crumbling at the foundations and I'm fumbling around like a rabbit in headlights. The depression isn't mine, it's my partners and for the last six months I've tried to be the glue to hold everything together but even I feel the cold glare of the abyss as everything I love and everything I have built is dying. We had the perfect relationship and we moved in together a day before the first lock down. I've always been fortunate enough to work through but she worked in leisure and that all quickly went tits up. We'd planned to have a child and as I write, mum is upstairs and I have a beautiful 8 week old new hammer sleeping on my chest. The move and lock down has stripped everything from her. Shitty no good friends have shown their colours and left her. I love how she looks but she's consumed by the fact she's lost her body to pregnancy. She's had a difficult abusive past and has always run from her problems. Her grandfather is on end of life care right now with covid and my ex of five years ago (psycho) just got a job as a placement officer for her course at uni for September. It's a fucking shit show. I try to find the strength each day. I build her up sometimes but it doesn't last long. She's lost the fight, consumed by monotonony and this Ray of sunshine no longer sees the goid in anything. She's triggered by the screaming baby. Bless the lad he's had lots of problems and it took 7 weeks to find a lactose I tolerance. Her son from a previous relationship talks to her like she's shit and he's somewhere on the autistic scale. When she's triggered and rock bottom it's our relationship she targets. I'm not good enough. It's me that makes her like this. It's not. It's circumstance. I give up everything to be the best father and partner I can be but she don't see it. She tells me she wants to run. Leave both the bots with me and disappear. There's no talking to her, she shuns physical contact and I just feel low and rejected. I'm so tired of fighting for my family that part of me wants to call her bluff and tell her to go.. But I want her here, I want to support her through it. I want us to flourish and cherish our world. She has no fight. Just a blank vacant stare.. I know our relationship is founded on good, it is not bad. Her issues are circumstantial but she won't provide solutions and my solutions are never good enough. I'd do anything for this woman. I love her and I know she loves me. She's given up though lads and it is breaking my heart."

"White Pony 9:35 Really sorry to hear this fella. Fingers crosed for you, and all those going through shit times at the moment."

"We are all down at this time in our lives, try walking ,i find this helps.everyday i walk around earlswood lakes in redhill surrey, great place its one mile round both lakes, its got a cafe loos if your at rock bottom, talk about it,dont keep it in,ive been to hell and back, without my mates ,i dont think i would have wanted to go on."

"Debs 11:33 I feel the same, kunt son but without the kid. Workload and not having time to get out the house."

"In STRUGGSVILLE at the moment with my head, feel so lethargic and no motivation to do anything. Not sure if it's just tiredness though as work is so busy and with little sleep due to the little one it's taking it's toll at the moment."

Sortyto hear that WP. Hope things turn round fot you. Have my bits crossed .

"My business is on the brink and that in turn is tipping me over the edge. It’s been doing really well but fallen off a cliff these last few months. Was in a really bad way about 2-3 years ago and managed to sort my head out then, but seeing worrying signs that I’m heading back down the black hole. At least I recognise the signs this time but anyone that’s been there will tell you, it’s doing something about them that can be the hardest part when you suffer from depression."

Stevethehammer 3:15 Wed Jan 20 Good to hear. I don't think you can underestimate how much having something else to think about and working alongside other people can get you out of yourself.

Stevethehammer 3:15 Wed Jan 20 Good to hear. I don't think you can underestimate how much having something else to think about and working alongside other people can get you out of yourself.

"Good news Steve, good luck wirh tbe new job"

Good to hear things are better Steve. üëçüèΩ

STEVOOOO!!! NICE ONE

"Steve Good to hear that things are looking better currently. One bit of advice I would give is to try to have a plan ready for what you will do in case things take a downward curve. I don't know what that plan might look like for you, but better to pre-empt it than have to start dealing with it from scratch if it happens when you least feel like dealing with it. Hope it's unnecessary but even just having a plan in place might give you some more reassurance and stability now. Good luck."

"Welcome back Steve! Blimey, we nearly sent the search party out for ya. Good to hear you’re doing ok and looking forward to good things as well now. A change is as good as a rest! Keep busy and keep well."

"Hackney Marsh 11:12 Tue Jan 19 Re: Anxiety/depression I’ve suffered in the past , my advice is try to eat healthily, cut out alcohol, get outdoors and talk to people, That last bit especially. The problem is, when you are feeling as low as a snakes belly, it is the hardest thing in the world to do."

Good for you stevethehammer. Look down makes everything worse. Great news about job. Try make time for walks and keep the goal of travel as a positive to aim for.

Stevethehammer 3:15 Wed Jan 20 Good to hear Steve.

Well done Steve I am pleased for you mate. I had depression like that I had never felt before it started about October 19. It used to come in overwhelming waves and I kept losing things as I was mulling my situation all of the time and when I lost something it just remininded me and others how ill I was. I would have a panic attack when I lost something at work and my head would just go somewhere else thinking about how ill I was and I would have to go home because I could not cope Knowing I wasn't alone on this forum was a great comfort

Well done matey

"Just wanted to pop in and say I'm doing alright at the moment. Been a hard few weeks but getting a job working and feeling part of a team again has helped. Long tiring hours but keeps the mind ticking over and rather than sitting there over thinking life and letting depression get the better of me. Cannot wait to get on a plane out to Asia when we can travel again as travelling is my medicine if you like. West ham doing the business has put a smile on my face and seriously thank you to the fellas wanstead and Norman no mates for the concerns. Nice to know its not all doom and gloom and even if it's just a footie forum some people out there give a damn. Cheers fellas, ironssss"

Wanstead that is concerning.

"I’ve suffered in the past , my advice is try to eat healthily, cut out alcohol, get outdoors and talk to people, the fact you are on here is part of the battle and shows courage. Happy to talk to you personally"