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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

Good for you stevethehammer. Look down makes everything worse. Great news about job. Try make time for walks and keep the goal of travel as a positive to aim for.

Stevethehammer 3:15 Wed Jan 20 Good to hear Steve.

Well done Steve I am pleased for you mate. I had depression like that I had never felt before it started about October 19. It used to come in overwhelming waves and I kept losing things as I was mulling my situation all of the time and when I lost something it just remininded me and others how ill I was. I would have a panic attack when I lost something at work and my head would just go somewhere else thinking about how ill I was and I would have to go home because I could not cope Knowing I wasn't alone on this forum was a great comfort

Well done matey

"Just wanted to pop in and say I'm doing alright at the moment. Been a hard few weeks but getting a job working and feeling part of a team again has helped. Long tiring hours but keeps the mind ticking over and rather than sitting there over thinking life and letting depression get the better of me. Cannot wait to get on a plane out to Asia when we can travel again as travelling is my medicine if you like. West ham doing the business has put a smile on my face and seriously thank you to the fellas wanstead and Norman no mates for the concerns. Nice to know its not all doom and gloom and even if it's just a footie forum some people out there give a damn. Cheers fellas, ironssss"

Wanstead that is concerning.

"I’ve suffered in the past , my advice is try to eat healthily, cut out alcohol, get outdoors and talk to people, the fact you are on here is part of the battle and shows courage. Happy to talk to you personally"

"Norm 4:43 I sent him a whomail earlier, asking him to post up and let us all know that he’s ok. (No sign though). Bit concerning. If anyone knows him, can you please tryn get in touch with him and do the same. Hopefully he’s safe and sound."

The last two/three months have been the only time in my life I've had proper 'stress'/anxiety. Purely because of my job. Decided to leave the job as a result and do something else. Already feel the fog lifting. I know sometimes it's not that easy but remember that we can all make positive decisions to change our environment even if it's not as radical as leaving your job.

Anyone heard how steve the hammer is? Worried about this fella

"Wanstead hammer 1.41 Echo that. Don't ever give up steve the hammer. Life is precious, and should treat is as such. No matter how much pain you suffer in your head, never ever give up. You ain't alone my friend."

"BRANDED 9:18 Thu Jan 14 Re: Anxiety/depression Looks like you posted on the wrong thread. Now, fuck off back to your regular thread. Your comment is more disingenuous than helpful."

Can I ask if anyone is having a better time of it in the last eight months? Sorry not to trawl through all the recent posts but if anyone has felt improved due to covid restrictions I would love to hear about it.

"Stevethehammer 10:38 I can only reiterate what the others have said on here. Sage advice indeed. (Good old WHO!) You’re already getting it off your chest which is a good thing and getting out in the fresh air in the natural light, even for a short time, will be of huge benefit (the days are getting longer now as well). Tryn vary things (times/small tasks/bit of exercise, if possible). As Exeter says, something will come along out the blue that will completely get you back to where you belong/was, without you even realising. All the advice on here is genuine positivity (big word!) and straight from the horse’s mouth. All the best. Keep well."

"Stevethehammer 10:38 I can only reiterate what the others have said on here. Sage advice indeed. (Good old WHO!) You’re already getting it off your chest which is a good thing and getting out in the fresh air in the natural light, even for a short time, will be of huge benefit (the days are getting longer now as well). Tryn vary things (times/small tasks/bit of exercise, if possible). As Exeter says, something will come along out the blue that will completely get you back to where you belong/was, without you even realising. All the advice on here is genuine positivity (big word!) and straight from the horse’s mouth. All the best. Keep well."

"I was a right state in my early 20s, the result of a lot of over indulgence, burning both ends of the candle relentlessly, not eating properly etcetc Some of my friends the same/worse Fot anyone sufferering, all the very best. There are ALWAYS ways out, no matter how bad things seem, you can turn the corner and then those things will be memories and just how they seemed at the time. it may not seem like it now, maybe you think that things can't get any worse and there's no way out....there always is and sometimes it'll come to you without you even thinking about it. Heads Up."

"Stevethehammer 10:38 Tue Jan 12 That's the thing with it, one day you can seem certain and it feels like a logical way out but then there are better days. You have to cling to the hope that there are better days even when it might not seem like it. Talk to someone, there is always a way back to better times. If you are stuck in going over everything in your head then find try to go out and find some open space, it can help break the cycle of negativity."

"Stevethehammer 10:38 Tue Jan 12 Sound advice already given - especially with the lighting around you; it makes a subtle but noticeable difference. Also, if you can, try and cook at least once a day, even if it's something simple; it occupies your mind and you get an end result; I found it very relaxing after 10 hours in an office dealing with muppets."

"Stevethehammer 10:38 Tue Jan 12 Re: Anxiety/depression Speak to the samaritans, cut down on booze, get out and do at least an hours exercise, walking, cycling, running etc, talk to friends and family, get a SAD lamp, use for 30 mins a day, try and eat good food, sleep. Hang in there mate, things will get easier"

"Stevethehammer 10:38 Tue Jan 12 Fella, if you do nothing else, give The Samaritans a buzz on 116 123. https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gclid=Cj0KCQiArvX_BRCyARIsAKsnTxOkDHIs2f4Vk2B4C0gzg7XbZc6jRa89WHWmAd2FGjHhiuob8DOzGDgaApz_EALw_wcB People trained to help. Good luck and hope it works out."

"Depression is horrible. I suffer alot from it, some days I'm fine, thinking yep I can do this shit and then other days I'm planning my own death. Its weird but I find it comforting knowing there is a way out and don't get me wrong it would leave some destruction behind and it would affect my family but feeling this way you don't really think of others just wanting the pain, frustration, anger and confusion just to go. This lockdown really hasn't helped and losing a relationship a few days ago just adds into the whole dynamic of not feeling good enough for anyone or anything. I never quite understood depression before, I pretty much had everything, a good solid social base, a decent job and a marriage. All that has gone and as I said planning my way out, people will see it as a cowards way but it's almost like a drug.. Knowing pretty much a click of the fingers and I decide lights out."

"Many don't really understand depression, thinking that it should have something to do with how good or otherwise your life is. This is irrelevant. Depression can strike anyone, at any time, sometimes for an identifiable reason and sometimes not. It can be as random as breaking your leg completely out of the blue."

"Manuel 6:11 Thu Jan 7 Re: Anxiety/depression arsegrapes 1:46 Thu Jan 7 ''Billy Bragg, I try to justify problems by telling myself there are many worse off which is true of course, and just try to get on with it'' But that doesn't work in reality, does it. When you are on the floor it makes no difference and makes you feel no better at all that there are others (that you don't even know) still worse off. Let's keep it real. It also doesn't work if you don't know why you are depressed, so have nothing to compare to."

Swiss clearly needs help. I hope somebody can reach out and.catch him before he falls.

"arsegrapes You mental condition you such a racist cսnt, Take it out on the Poles....Cabbage Savage. Sad cսnt."