Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Boycie]

"one iron 1:51 Thu Dec 24 a poignant message for us all One. I'm 54 and the same over the last two years a lot of steady people have passed on. Each one like a dagger in the heart each one hits harder. I lost my fellow WHU mate to a brain tumour last year. If he had lived he would most probably been taken by covid. every now and again I think I see him and go to wave then say to myself ""silly bastard he's dead"". Doesnt stop me falling for it next time. BUT i swear it is him. Really spooky. I am not making this up. He used to make me proper laugh and me as a miserable fucker that was a job to do. I miss him terribly. Why does the good lord take the good ones so young? all the shitfuckerycunts walking about breathing our air and he takes them? He left a wife and two kids and loads of people that loved him dearly. God bless."

[arsegrapes]

"Thanks Ted, yes it was a kind of hell for our family, but became the norm, if that makes sense, maybe genetic as her sister drank an smoked herself to a premature death after trying to overdose three times. To be honest mum loved a drink, travelled the world, must have suffered depression without knowing, but honestly don't think she would have changed anything. They call it the devil's brew for good reason."

[ted fenton]

arsegrapes 5:10 Sat Dec 26 Must of been hell for you and your Dad grapes so sad you had to go through that but I bet your mum didn't want it that way. May your mum rest in peace.

[arsegrapes]

"Hello Ted, pleased to hear you've stopped drinking and things are improving. I did mention a while ago on one of the numerous alcohol related threads that sadly my mother succumbed to cirrhosis 2 years ago, she still made it to 85, but only because my dad wasn't a drinker and used to lock up all the booze in a cupboard. When he was out at work she would go and buy some and would be pissed on his return more often than not, found hundreds of wine bottles hidden in the garden, brandy in the Sarson's vinegar bottle, never admitted she had a problem. My dad slipped up recently when he told me that mum wrote her car off? I didn't know, kept it quiet, said mum had gone out for lunch and pulled out on someone, old bill took her down the nick to sober up where she took umbrage and punched a copper. Ended up in court charged with drink driving and assaulting a police officer. Blimey."

[ted fenton]

"Good for you lab right attitude !!!! If you're ever disappointed with what you receive this Christmas just remember somewhere, someone is unwrapping a Tottenham shirt. Second Christmas in a row sober Woohoo :-)"

[normannomates]

"lab 4.04 Nice one. Ted fenton. Took a lot of guts to post that mate, shocked me a bit tbh. SOLDO.. Anytime my friend. Sincerely. One Iron.. You know what, when a man like Bill has the guts to show his emotions and his vulnerabilities for all to see it makes you realise that it's okay to admit when you're struggling, it can save lives. Best wishes to all hammers"

[lab]

"A big shout to Ted Fenton who sent me a really good who mail , I’ve fallen off the horse a few times mate and as I’m typing this I’ve had a few drinks . I’m ninety percent sure I will be okay ."

[LeroysBoots]

"As the original poster mate back in Jan, how has your year been ?"

[Tomshardware]

Best wishes to all hammers at this time.

[LeroysBoots]

"OI, that's why we need the grounds full again so we can try and enjoy the banter of mates we always see at the football. I certainly miss that craic I wish you and yours a very happy Christmas mate"

[one iron]

"I wish you all a nice time this christmas,untill we meet again."

[one iron]

"This year i lost 3 great mates, friends i had each for over 45 years,its hit me harder than i thought. i miss all three of them everyday.Dennis was my friend for all my life, bob was a friend i had when i had fuck all, duncon was a chelsea fan, we shared some hobbys that most people would takethe piss out i looked at him like a older son, his dad topped his self, and i wanted him to know i was always about for him. some days the pain i fill is unbelievable. the day dennis was taken to the hospice .I, told him if i could i would swap with him, he said i know you would,..I dont fill the pain will ever go away."

[LeroysBoots]

"God bless you ted, have a great Christmas mate, hang on in there"

[ted fenton]

Never posted on this thread but I often have a look and wonder If I could ever help in any way but I am always up for a chat having had/got alcohol issues !! I was diagnosed with Cirrhosis 2 years ago and was told to stop drinking or die ! Cirrhosis is a shit and makes you realise how many functions the liver has to cope with it also causes depression and anxiety which I have never experienced but now know what a fucker it really is ! I have lost 3 stone and look like I've just been released by the Japs but I have now gone 16 months without a drink so I'm hanging in there and my latest bloods have shown good results. I've not long bought a sports car to cheer me up and possibly keep me young :-) Happy Christmas to you all what ever shit life is handing you.

[Northern Sold]

Nice words Norm fella.... and I might take you up on that... spent the best part of today attempting to put back together a `broken' daughter... news since the weekend was the last drop that spilt the pint... oh well roll on tomorrow...

[normannomates]

"Anyone struggling on their jack over this strange time.. DONT.. you ain't alone.. PM anyone on WHO.. even SOLDO. WHO has never been for fannies .. but I think the loss of certain people has left a mark. Not in a bad way, just more awareness I think. IF you endexed cunting each other off, what are we left with? A franco/kraut/ borefest Fuck those two. That's the thing that these 'remainers' do not.. and never will understand. It goes far deeper than that. The soppy shallow youth only check in to rehad over the shock of their passport. Fuck em all. They despise us, always have.. Take our dough and laugh behind our backs.. nearly 50yrs of this shit. Maggie would have told em to fuck off a LONG while ago."

[Darlo Debs]

Good on.you Block its really important for your mental health. Both my kids have had a crap time this year ( one with her mental health) and the other with a physical.issue. Taking its toll on me at the mo so anyone struggling on here (whether i agree with you on other things or not) wishing you all the best and hope we all have a better year next year.

[Block]

"Great story that, Blagg. One thing I've realised is not to bottle it up, If I need to have a cry I do, usually on my own though. You're never alone mate."

[Billy Blagg]

"Thanks to everyone who contacted me here or via WHOmail. I can't tell you how much it was appreciated and shows what a special bunch Hammers fans are. I'm particularly grateful to the person who sent me their mobile number. I was really touched. It will come as a surprise to people who've read my stuff here since the late '90's but I do my talking on the k/board, outside I'm pretty quiet with only a handful of key friends...I try to get by on my own (I think if you're an only child it's second nature) but I will ring even if only to thank you. Anyway, I decided earlier in the week to go to 'Blue Christmas' A 'socially-distanced Carol service of comfort and hope for those who find this time of year difficult' at St James's Church in Piccadilly. Now I'm not actually religious but my mum made me go to church when I was a kid and it's kinda rubbed off on me and I get a lot of solace from going if I'm struggling and - though its miles away from where I live - I regard St James's as my local. In fact, I volunteered to feed the homeless there last Christmas Day. So I sat down, the service started and there was a stunning singer doing the carols and I just went. I mean really sobbing. In the hour long service I don't think I stopped for five minutes. During winter there are often homeless visitors who go in for shelter and one bloke - bless him - must have thought 'fuck social distancing' and came over to see if I was ok and offer me a sweet. He left before the end I tried to find him after to stand him a meal but he'd gone. So, that stuff I was saying about not being able to show any emotion. I must have had a good years worth right there this afternoon. Strange how things go sometimes."

[normannomates]

"Billy Sorry mate, I couldn't reply to PM.. have trouble with that, fook knows why. Stick in there pal, as Lab says, you ain't alone. Thanks for everything, believe me, you have helped me at this time of year, year on year with your work. stay strong pal"

[normannomates]

"Billy Sorry mate, I couldn't reply to PM.. have trouble with that, fook knows why. Stick in there pal, as Lab says, you ain't alone. Thanks for everything, believe me, you have helped me at this time of year, year on year with your work. stay strong pal"

[lab]

"Billy, I’m sorry if this sounds simplistic, people you have lost will want you to keep your head up and go forward. Keep talking matey , plenty of us will be there for you ."

[one iron]

billy you have mail.

[one iron]

"billy try thinking about things you both liked todo, music your lady loved,with out this outlet, i worry for you my friend, iwas not close to my mum and dad, but still go to the grave every four weeks to clean it,you need to talk my friend. good luck mate."

[Billy Blagg]

"Tomshardware 11:27 Thu Dec 10 Agreed Tom but sometimes they don't come. I don't feel I've bottled anything up but I've found it really hard to cry after losing my dad last November and my mum six weeks later. I didn't shed one tear for either and though I've had a few sobs since they are still for my wife.I'm emptying a house I grew up in and every time I go - usually twice a week - it just gets more depressing. I was there today and was thinking how that would look at this time in other years; coal fire roaring, me father burning chestnuts. Now it's cold and empty and that's how I feel inside. Just dead. This will be my third Christmas without Lady B and I genuinely don't think there's a minute goes by I don't think about her. I'd love to sit and cry but they just don't flow."