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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

Fair enough Oxsaw.

"When I was first diagnosed with depression I felt a little ashamed and only told my partner. A month or so later, with the medication doing its thing, I went to a meeting with a producer I'd known for some time and she commented that she'd been worried about me as when we last met I seemed out of sorts - though you seem a lot better, she added. So I told her. She was also a Samaritans volunteer so I knew she'd keep it confidential. ""!'m taking Seroxat"", I said. And as quick as a flash and with a big smile she said: ""So am I. Great, aren't they""! All my shame lifted. If Stevie, a very attractive and successful young woman could happily admit it, why couldn't I? The more people I told the more others told me that they too suffered. It really was a matter of a problem shared is a problem halved. If you look at it logically, depression is caused by the lack of serotonin entering the brain. Why should anyone be ashamed or embarrassed by that? Diabetics are deficient of insulin though there's little stigma there - but what's the difference? Oh, and Stevie went on to beat cancer and is a happy (still thanks to Seroxat) mum of two."

"When I was first diagnosed with depression I felt a little ashamed and only told my partner. A month or so later, with the medication doing its thing, I went to a meeting with a producer I'd known for some time and she commented that she'd been worried about me as when we last met I seemed out of sorts - though you seem a lot better, she added. So I told her. She was also a Samaritans volunteer so I knew she'd keep it confidential. ""!'m taking Seroxat"", I said. And as quick as a flash and with a big smile she said: ""So am I. Great, aren't they""! All my shame lifted. If Stevie, a very attractive and successful young woman could happily admit it, why couldn't I? The more people I told the more others told me that they too suffered. It really was a matter of a problem shared is a problem halved. If you look at it logically, depression is caused by the lack of serotonin entering the brain. Why should anyone be ashamed or embarrassed by that? Diabetics are deficient of insulin though there's little stigma there - but what's the difference? Oh, and Stevie went on to beat cancer and is a happy (still thanks to Seroxat) mum of two."

I think the general consensus is that we would rather chat with you than about you.

"Thanks sxboy. I'm getting the help I need, GP has been good, I've also started some online CBT. I've been doing some running and going to a yoga class. I've had some better days where I can see hope for the future. Still have bad days and bad thoughts but I like to think I would talk to someone if things get very bad. If Norm is struggling then I hope he feels he can seek help, but having a pop at people on this thread isn't helpful to anyone. I speak as someone who didn't use to understand mental illness."

"Tomshardware 7:48 Mon Jan 13 Ignoring the clueless 'man up' knobheads, I've been there mate. Step one is go and see your GP. There's lots of help available and accepting it doesn't make you feel useless. I know it's been a couple of weeks since you posted and I missed originally. Hope things are looking better but if you need help please just speak to someone, it's the hardest step but one you have to take, Good luck."

The bloke's an embarrassing pissed up twat who needs to deal with his drink problem.

"Not hard to see how 'no mates' got his nom de guerre. If anyone needed help, it's him. I'm not going to cսnt him off any more on this thread as he's muddled at best and suffering PTSD at worse Every time he opens his mouth he seems to put his foot in it. Go with God kid but a bit of grace wouldn't go amiss."

"Nurse Ratched 8:44 Thu Jan 30 So am I. Going though it at the moment but his posts are a different level. Hiding is my response. Perhaps ranty catharis is his therapy, hope it helps."

"Fair enough alfs. Imo If it helps norm to have a rant on here then it’s in the spirit of the thread. Anyway, no WHOer, regardless how troubled, would pay attention to a pissed up norm in headwand mode"

It might be good for him to log on whilst sober and read back some of the embarrassing shit he posts on here.

"bruuuno wrote... If people don’t like what Norman has to say then how about don’t read it? I think the point is that this is a thread specifically about users feeling anxious and depressed. Someone jumping on here, calling people out and telling them to grow up and man up is only going to make their feelings of anxiety and depression worse. Given that we've lost 2 posters on here very recently through either drinking themselves to death, or topping themselves, it makes it more than a bit cunty. Not sure why that is so hard to understand. It also makes norm look a complete bellend and is massively cringey."

I'm a bit worried about him.

If people don’t like what Norman has to say then how about don’t read it?

norman deffo has some kind of repressed homosexual fantasy thing which is messing with his head.

Mike Oxsaw 11:16 Wed Jan 29 Re: Anxiety/depression I now withdraw my previous 'Fair point'. Would definitely welcome a removal of the less helpful posts.

Here's a University questionnaire if anyone wants to do it https://lboro.onlinesurveys.ac.uk/is-there-a-generational-divide-in-attitude-and-understandi

"That's tragic Alfs, sorry to hear you lost your brother."

"Westham67 wrote... alfs my mate did the same on his 19th birthday in his old mans cam 4/11/85 My brother did it 2 years ago. He was a tree surgeon and had a yard down in Kent (he worked for years in Scandinavian forests, so I don't think he was the type to wear an arctic parka at +6). He had a lad working for him chopping logs - turned up on a saturday, told the lad that he'd had a bit of bad news, and sent him home. Looks like he spent some considerable time adapting his exhaust manifold in the truck with a hosepipe running to a drilled hole in the dashboard. Then he lay down on the front seats, using his 6 year old daughter's child seat as a head rest. His mate found him 3 days later. My mum took it badly - never really opened up to anyone about it and within a year had been diagnosed with Cancer. She died a very painful and traumatic death a couple of months later. That's a cheery little story for a Thursday morning. On a positive noteits good to see that norm's 'dealing with it yourself' method is working well for him. Haven't seen a drunken rant from him in a long time. Oh..."

"Norman - you’re clearly troubled. No one is judging you, people deal with their issues in different ways. Hopefully you’ll open up and reach out to get the help you need. Nothing wrong with saying you’re struggling, half the people on this thread have done it."

*car

alfs my mate did the same on his 19th birthday in his old mans cam 4/11/85

"Norman, keep your opinions to yourself."

"Norman, keep your opinions to yourself."

"normannomates 6:43 Thu Jan 30 What, exactly, is it that attracted you to a thread about anxiety/depression?"