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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"Sydney and Alfs ... thank you for that. It goes in waves. So far, I have avoided taking any medication. We have quite good health benefits through my wife's job (important in the U.S.) so I think I might go and see a therapist which I have done before. Ironically, this post has helped me because I don't feel so alone. I'm trying to work out what part of me is depressed because of a chemical imbalance in my body and what part of it can be attributed to circumstances. One thing that normally cheers me up is watching West Ham on the box with my youngest son who plays competitive ""soccer."" We were shit today and that didn't help."

I thought that Gavros was just from drinking too much and wasn't deliberate. That's how I understood was was said at the time.

Nice one Sydney.

"Balto Life’s a bitch at times, and sometimes it just seems to be one thing after another, thing is to try and stay positive which is far easier said than done and what’s often the first thing you hear when you do talk about it, but its also very true! Maybe see your GP as a first step if you haven’t already, if need be get on some meds for the short term, talk to your wife, or friends, you have posted on WHO and that’s a start to opening up and talking about it, many don’t and bottle it up and then get to a point of deep despair and no hope, yes we maybe anonymous to each other on WHO but we are also a community and by the sounds of things many here can relate to and experience day to day the struggles that many men face with depression, and at the extreme must get so out of touch and feel like there is no hope as Eddie, Gavros and Piggy must have that they take that step to finish it and leave behind devastated family and friends. Don’t let the dark side take over or become all consuming as things then seem worse than they are or minor things get to you as well, think of your kids and family, think anyone who has kids goes through a certain degree of angst, worry and stress because of them, some more than others, and sounds like you really have your hands full, but expect they will need you in the months and years ahead, so try and get yourself in a good space for there sake, on the job front, get out there and sell yourself, I wouldn’t be telling them my age until I had an interview not that it’s a big a problem as some think these days especially if you have very good track record, think most of this thing about being “To Old” is from the job seeker side rather than the employer side, with more and more people staying in the workforce longer, being early 60,s is not seen as it was say 20 years ago, you have another good 10 years at least….. Hang in there mate, and all the best."

"Balto - with all of your experience as a marketing director of course people will be interested in your skills. Have you thought of going freelance and doing consultancy work? Businesses are desperate for good marketing people as quite frankly, there are not that many good ones around. I speak to them on a daily basis and am often stunned by how inept they are in describing what their business does. If you can't describe that succinctly, what the fuck are you doing in marketing? Off-topic, I realise, Just trying to help."

"This thread has really struck a chord with me. From the outside my life looks wonderful. I live in a nice house in California, have a beautiful wife and three amazing kids. Scrape away at the veneer and most of the time I feel pretty helpless and depressed. Over the past two years the following shit has happened. My eldest child who has a mild form of epilepsy that turned into bi-polar disorder. We had to fly up to her college and bring her home. My mother-in-law - who I adored - died very suddenly. Two years ago, my son started self-harming because of pressure at school. He also crashed our car which was written off. I took a new job that turned out to have a colleague that was a psychopath and due to stress, I ended up in the emergency room with very high blood pressure and a heart rate that was a cause for concern. I went back to work and was “let go” which was a relief. The only problem is that nobody is interested in a 62-year-old marketing director. I’m currently taking a very difficult online course at UC Berkeley to update my skills. I was at home alone on Thursday and listening to a BBC Radio 4 program and just started crying uncontrollably. Hearing songs that bring back the past can set me off. Part of it was feeling sorry for myself but a big part was “what’s the fucking point?” I’ve known quite a few couples where the woman’s previous husband has killed himself and in most cases the kids are too quiet or get themselves entangled in a serious relationship too early in their lives. I don’t want to mess up other people’s lives, but I think suicidal thoughts every couple of days."

All good. Thanks. Safe flight.

"Peckham - sorry mate, didn’t get a whomail notification (Mods - it’s still fucked) so didn’t know you had tried to get in touch until now. I have replied to you, but I’m getting on a plane in a bit so please don’t think I’m ignoring you"

"Joe C, ffs WHOmail nightmare. Now corrected. COYIS and well done for getting through how you felt and giving good advice."

"Slight change of plan, we’re on telly!"

Nice one Joe. I actually like a long flight. Get into the cocoon and doze. Happy Trails!

"Well, someone has to. Thank you to everyone that kept me active and talking tonight - here, whomail and those DEVIL SOCIAL MEDOA PLATFORMS - you will likely never know how much that means to me. I am ok, I’m gong to sleep now and then I’m flying back to the UK in 10hrs. Marvellous"

"Well, someone has to. Thank you to everyone that kept me active and talking tonight - here, whomail and those DEVIL SOCIAL MEDOA PLATFORMS - you will likely never know how much that means to me. I am ok, I’m gong to sleep now and then I’m flying back to the UK in 10hrs. Marvellous"

I love durian.

bruuuno 2:47 Sat Jan 18 Durian. Banned on public transport thankfully

"Spot on Darby - the word I hate here the most from the native Singaporeans is ‘cannot’ Tried to get in our data centre that I signed the contract for last year, using Joe, and because my passport say Joseph, the bellend at the security gate refused to let me in. I had a van with me with about half a million’s worth of server and network gear and he just wouldn’t have it. All he kept just saying “Name not same. Cannot” They’re also talking about imposing a law here that you can’t walk along staring at your phone. I am absolutely, fully behind this"

"Singapore is a great place. Full of culture, well put together and the food is sensational. But for some reason the people and the television are boring as fuck."

Watch out for them smelly fruit things

"Top tip - undershirts. Sounds counterproductive in a country who has two types of weather - hot, and hot and wet - but you’ll thank me for it"

Will do. We've got an office out there so I think they'll be looking after him though. Think I'll be out there at some point this year. Will give you a shout if i am.

Just watch where you put the chewing gum!

"Nah, it’s still an utterly fantastic place - I wouldn’t be moving here if it wasn’t. Just don’t watch the telly or buy a beer in a hotel (£10 a pint, minimum) If he wants any advice on where to go then put him in touch with me"

I've just sent one of our young consultants to Singapore for 2 weeks. He's on the plane now. I feel quite guilty now after reading that.

Joe C 1:54 Sat Jan 18 Wow! That's tough. Maybe the match will be the best option!

"Which I should add, I have on because it’s the only thing that I can get in English. Edward is so complicated"