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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"Northern Sold 11:38 Thu Jan 16 Sure, but out of the 100s of people I knew, they did it to improve their abilities at whatever sport they played, not to look like an inflated lump on the telly. Also, they did it for free at school and didn't require private gym memberships and have to buy other stuff to achieve it."

Bungo…. Plenty of youngsters hit gyms back in the day… then everyone blamed Arnie and Charles Atlas….

"Joe C 4:42 Thu Jan 16 ""I do think Bolty is right that this current age of people striving for acceptance, appreciation and gratification 24/7 isn't healthy."" ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I am convinced that this is a major problem. I would not be surprised if marketeers for many products aren't deliberately now employing psychological 'how to make our potential customers dissatisfied with their lot' tactics. Case in point - my youngest who is now 18, was obsessed for the last two years or so that he was too skinny and not as 'built' as the lunks he saw on Love Island etc, instead of being happy that he was an absolutely normal 16/17 year old physical build. Therefore he wanted weights/gym membership/bulking stuff etc that I would never have even thought of at his age. Mostly seems to come back to somebody somewhere making money off the dissatisfaction."

"Nurse, just wanted to throw something into the conversation we had yesterday. Music, has a huge effect on peoples mood, especially if a song you love comes on you get happy dance sing etc etc. This is the same thing that can happen but in the opposite way, if you're subject to so much negative bollocks it's going to effect you."

"Mike Oxsaw 9:21 Thu Jan 16 Ha. More seriously, lot to admire and some things to avoid in Japanese culture, like a lot things in the world. My brother in law lived there for a three years in a couple stints and his wife is from there. He wrote his honours undergrad thesis (which I edited for him) on the treatment of foreigners (mostly other Asians, in the North American sense, if that makes sense). A viewpoint of an outsider, if a somewhat informed one but from that, Western cultures are certainly not the only one that could be called racist, if you want to throw that label around."

"""As a culture, Japan is a lot more uptight than Western countries""... That'll be the pixellation."

"As a culture, Japan is a lot more uptight than Western countries like the UK. The uptightness there is a bit slifling to be honest, even as a tourist. I’d imagine that they’re less likely to admit their struggles with things like depression because they’ll lose face. I had an American friend who taught English there for a year. There was actually a rape in the school and the school completely covered the whole thing up, presumably because it didn’t want to lose face. Very different culture, so I wouldn’t take stats about the amount of people with claiming to have depression there too seriously. The suicide numbers are a more accurate reflection of the mental health problem in that country. Obviously if you’re about to top yourself, you don’t care about face any more."

"After we got burgled in December 2017, I had a mental breakdown - mostly anxiety and panic attacks at first, but ultimately led to depression. Tried CBT, mindfullness etc, didn't work. Was put on Citalopram and that made me worse, even after the 6 week settling in period, and had a bad side effect in that I would completely lose concentration - often at the worst pssoible times (including in a driving lesson when I was about to go round a three lane roundabout and fucked that RIGHT up) All came to a head in summer 2018 and the irrational part of my brain decided the best way out was to kill myself. Knew what I was going to do and where and when I would do it. Only thing that stopped me was the rational part of my brain forcing in the realisation that I'm my mum's first born and she's already lost one son, and if I went through with it I doubt she'd ever recover. So I went back home and called the Samaritans who were amazing. I'm still here 18 months later, I'm on escitalopram now which has really helped and doesn't seem to have any side effects for me. I still have very dark days every now and again (like I did yesterday - not Darren Randolph related), but what the Samaritans helped me realise is that it's ok to feel like that and it's not the end. And if you do feel like it is, there's always someone there who can help you. You are never alone. So, in short, yeah, depression is fucking shit, but you can get through it. And I'm always available to talk to if you want to. As for what causes it, it's different for everyone - but I do think Bolty is right that this current age of people striving for acceptance, appreciation and gratification 24/7 isn't healthy. I barely go on twitter or FB anymore, and the other thing I've done is stopped reading newspapers - which have helped somewhat"

https://hbr.org/2020/01/how-to-manage-an-employee-with-depression?ab=hero-main-text&utm_source=twitter&utm_campaign=hbr&utm_medium=social

"My wife and I have 3 dogs and no time to get depressed. Walking, training, feeding and clearing up their shit takes up a lot of time..."

"Anyone with depression and is able to, should get a dog. Mine has kept me alive."

I'm depressed that I don't have depression seems everyone has got it except me its just not fair..

"Watch it ED, he's a very tall................................... ....................story teller."

Ag ag ag! So true Eerie...

"I know it's so hard for those struggling at times, but when things get really bad, you always have to keep telling yourself one thing, no matter how you feel... You'll never be as thick as BRANDED."

Block 4:45 Wed Jan 15 I think soy milk/beans/tofu/miso etc are all pretty bad.

Block 4:45 Wed Jan 15 I think soy milk/beans/tofu/miso etc are all pretty bad.

"A thread on weak minded divs, what a surprise Bolty is all over it as an expert witness. Only popped in to see if anything a changed. Gank posting a superb reply treat gets a few knickers in a twist and Bolty being a mong. Good to see the site is the same as always. I’ll pop back in a few months. Keep it up."

"Block 5:20 Wed Jan 15 More connected? Possibly. Better connected? I doubt it. As I alluded to in an earlier post, as a nipper, before the days of mobiles & the internet, we all had fewer connections, but they were generally of better, or more useful, quality. On some of the ""advice"" I've seen bandied about on social media, it would have been vastly improved by replacing it with a complete stranger's horoscope."

I'm not

"""WE ARE ALL INDIVIDUALS""."

Half pint?

"Davies is a fat bald, speaks with a lisp, prize 24 carat bellend"

Oh that wasn't Kev I was having the meet up with by the way... if I met him I'd be first to the bar to get him a pint and then set the dog on him...

"alfs barnet 5:16 Wed Jan 15 People are more connected now, which is probably why people are hearing more and more about it on SM or the news etc, back then it was hard to spread the word so fast about the issues, that and how people as you say covered it up. Sold0, he's an epic fisherman, to be fair."