Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Block]

"Tom, talking about it with your family/friends ill help you get your feelings off your chest. I read something that Anxiety is brought on often by unresolved issues and depression is brought on by things that have happened to you in the past which you haven't dealt with. It's difficult to advise you on what to do most people can only speak from their own experiences, meditation, writing down everything I'm grateful for cutting out coffee, drink,drugs all massively helped me but others found exercise to be a massive help."

[Mike Oxsaw]

"A couple of common themes that seem to tie this subject together with all the different people involved is one of helplessness, and that of being alone in trying to manage the situation. These seem to be deep rooted in people's psyche - almost as if owning up to these problems is admitting to being some kind of ""failure"" in life, when, in fact, the complete opposite is the truth; to accept that you have a problem and are prepared to ask for help rather than ""big it out alone"" is one of the biggest and bravest decisions someone can make - and it will most likely turn out to be one of the best decisions that person makes, too. I don't think I've been anywhere near as deep into this as many (on here) clearly have, but is doesn't mean that the problem doesn't exist (or that I will continue to be immune from it). By comparison, my ""Dark places"" are mere twilight when I read some of the comments. Is posting on a site like this the ""best"" place to raise the subject? Given how prevalent and all-pervading it seems to be, than I think the answer is a resounding ""Yes!"", and leave it to others to display their own embarrassment at discussing the subject. Pigeon holes are for pigeons."

[One Flew]

"If you're getting help with this sounds like you're on the right track.I've been there too and found getting the right help , drugs if needed and being kind to yoursel is all good."

[alfs barnet]

"""Dump the job if you don’t like it , dump the bird if she is moaning . Have a holiday , just do what you want to do , not what’s expected of you."" Yep, for a married man with kids and a mortgage, losing your home, getting divorced and fighting a custody battle will be, by far, the best way to cure anxiety and depression. Great advice."

[HairyHammer]

"Supposedly things are better and we speak more than we used to but yet Anxiety and depression are sadly too common in society. I suffer with these problems even with a brilliant loving family around me. I too have had ridiculous thoughts but I believe that to be my brain turning into a diva ball buster. The best thing you can do many have told you in the comments is see a therapist and talk, and that failing ask your doc to prescribe pills which do help many although everyone reacts differently to them."

[kylay]

"Best advice I can give is to find a therapist and don't be afraid to shop around until you find someone you work well with. It doesn't work if you can't connect. It's really time consuming and costly. It's not linear or straightforward. Reasons for depression are as varied as the people who suffer from it, so there is no ""answer"" for it. There's only recognizing how you relate to others and yourself and that awareness can create space in your mind instead of feeling trapped there."

[joe royal]

"Split hairs as much as you like , the principle still stands."

[Cheezey Bell-End]

That's being depressed about something. That's not depression.

[joe royal]

"How to cure depression. Do things you like. Stop doing things you don’t like. Cheer up. I had an “episode” about 10 years ago whilst doing a job I hated , I lasted 3 1/2 days driving a Tesco artic and was throughly miserable for the entire time. On my last morning I finished my first run , went back to the depot , walked up to the supervisor and just said “I can’t do this anymore.” Was like a huge weight was taken off my shoulders. Dump the job if you don’t like it , dump the bird if she is moaning . Have a holiday , just do what you want to do , not what’s expected of you. Stop saying what you can’t do and concentrate on what you can. Everyone and his uncle seems to have depression and anxiety these days , it’s like the new bad back."

[Pedant]

"PS Next time you are in a workplace or maybe a busy coffee shop, look around. For every 20 people you see 4 or 5 will be dealing with a major depressive episode. And you will not be able to tell which ones just by looking. That's how **not alone** you are. Good luck."

[Pedant]

"There's no getting around the fact that depression and anxiety are absolute cunts. You did the first big thing in asking. Talk to people close to you, who you trust (Avoid people who say ""Oh, yes - that's just like when I...""). You want people who will give you a damned good listening to. Especially your partner, if you have one. But parents, siblings, favourite aunt, close buddies. Get to your GP and seek a referral for counselling. CBT is not the be-all-and-end-all but it does help you get focused, if you work it. But if it is going to take ages, then go private if you can afford it (if you can't, hang in there with bloodied finger nails if that is what it takes -it does help once you get there). I'd probably steer clear of pharma solutions for now, but if they become necessary pay attention to what they are doing to their mood - that can take up to 6 weeks to work and your mood will go all over the shop at first, so stay close to loved ones and make sure they know. But if you need them, do not fear them. Easy to say, harder to live: there is a brighter time ahead and it is not a fight you have to face alone. Anyone who has walked the road will listen to you sympathetically, and stand with you if they are at all able (although be wary of the caveat above - but just be wary, not cynical). Do. Not. Give. Up."

[Hallerinthemorning]

"No xanex is not the answer ( answering ""peroni"" below) and u should really be careful handing out that kind of advice. Yes it will calm him but the relief at being calm mixed with depression will possibly send him on a massive bender . The come down from xanex and the hangover and depression is enough to send many to their grave of there own making. Xanex is a no no as is Prozac or equivakent. Propanalol is ok at 40mg for mild anxiety. Prozac is awful as it takes so fucking long to work (3 weeks minimum) and can make u more anxious during that 3 weeks."

[Claret Badger]

"my way of coping with anxiety and depression - is not sleeping, eating badly and recreational pharmaceuticals I hate being gen X - but also love it"

[Hallerinthemorning]

"Number 1, u have done the right thing in speaking out. In answer to the guy down the thread who asks if you can curb it by doing less drugs and less booze, the answer is no. it's there. To all that ask if it's a modern day sickness, well yes in fact it is but it because the pressure these days is relentless. The modern day person or family is under 'attack' everyday from pressure, expectation and a rub it in your face attitude from your neighbour. That's all well and good if you are experienced in this but usually the dads who are left to help the rest of the family are not equipped to handle things or help as they have been brought up old school or by an old fashioned father. The good news is millennials will have the tools to beat deosression and teach it but for now 'boomers' are struggling. I struggled years ago hugely with drink and drugs and depression. I found a way to beat it by accepting it and not being bothered that I had it, understanding why I had it and living with it (depression, bi polar, anxiety, addicton). All I knew is I was scared of death. So if I were to try and kill myself,succeeding would be another fucking fail but it was so hard to get the fight. I watched 5 people die or commit suicide, 1 was my cousin, 1 was my client, 1 was my best friends brother, 1 was my fab neighbour and 1 was the poor poor guy on here many moons ago. I saw that the gap left didn't help. I don't pressure myself to achieve on a daily basis. Or I do achieve but its sometimes less substantial. My productivity increases between April and September as the weather and season and daylight affect me. I spend my days helping addicts and people with depression. U have to really really understnad it to be able to live with it.tomshardware, if u want to message me,u can, u can say wat u want. Trust me I been there and I won't be telling u to stop drinking or to take a happy pill. and if u have others then great and good luck. I shall be at Everton.take care."

[Manuel]

Do you fuckers EVER give it a rest? Fucking boring cunts.

[Cheezey Bell-End]

"Diet is a big part of it. Leave out the processed food and eat seeds, nuts and greens. If the brain gets the right nutrition, it's better able to stay balanced and be resilient."

[peroni]

Xanax Tread carefully though. Only as and when needed. Penners - you alright Son?

[Peterboroughiron]

Bruuuno That is the truest and saddest statement I’ve seen on here

[Peterboroughiron]

Bruuuno That is the truest and saddest statement I’ve seen on here

[arsegrapes]

"if you've had a troubled upbringing, without or unhappy in your job, or divorced it is said you are more prone to this, which is unsurprising. *Disclaimer* ""The above doesn't help anyone, but may bring on feelings of anxiety""."

[collyrob]

Tomshardware endorses a hairy vagina. No wonder he’s miserable.

[penners28]

"It's an awful, awful, affliction. Akin to wearing a clown mask 24/7. Like someone said below, one minute you're on top of the world, the next you could easily chuck yourself under a bus. You can end up loving life but hating yourself and questioning whether or not everyone would be better off without you. For me, the main issue is that some people cant afford to take time off work, which just increases the anxiety further. Just got to keep your head down, and hope the intrusive thoughts go away."

[joyo]

Only suffer following West Hams

[Stevethehammer]

I have always been against taking Pills. It just masks the problems and from the ones ive taken before they made me worse

[WHUDeano]

"Do people still suffer from depression if they don't drink too much, take drugs regularly, eat too much or don't exercise? Not knocking anyone, just genuinely interested in modern day views? If you don't do any of those things is it then considered depression needing medication or do doctors just dish out pills either way?"