Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[alfs barnet]

Jesus wept.

[ironsofcanada]

"Alfs I had opportunities to try both when young and had pretty ready access to both. Base jumping requires more money, skill and a pretty specific environment as compared to running. Not sure the comparison works. (To be fair, I did not have the body type to actually be great at rowing.)"

[alfs barnet]

"""I just found white water canoeing more exciting"" I always think the same about running. ""I just found base jumping more exciting"""

[Bungo]

"ironsofcanada 1:08 Thu Jan 16 I'm sure it is. The best rowers I knew were almost zombies. They rowed, they trained, they ate, they rested, 7 days a week every week. I think they were too tired to do anything else."

[ironsofcanada]

"Great respect to all the rowers, great for you. I just found white water canoeing more exciting."

[Dan M]

There have been rowing clubs in east London since Victorian times. The current Lea RC is an amalgamation of all of them.

[Bungo]

Northern Sold 12:25 Thu Jan 16 Yup. Definitely a different part of the Thames.

[Northern Sold]

Yeah deffo Bungo fella... any gym that I have ever frequented over the years I cannot remember any top rowing school member types being there... don't think I have ever seen any Coxless pairs scuttling up the Estuary

[Bungo]

"Northern Sold 12:09 Thu Jan 16 I see. Mine was not an Essex thing. I went to one of the top rowing schools in the country. One of our teachers was an Olympic gold medallist who had been in a winning boat with Steve Redgrave. Many people from our school Boat Club have regularly gone on to row in the Oxford/Cambridge Boat Race. These were supremely fit and strong people, but they didn’t look like over-inflated body builder types. If it didn’t make the boat go faster, it was irrelevant. Sounds like very different circles."

[Northern Sold]

"Cough... no sand at LoS son... just pebbles, tampons and cockles...."

[Northern Sold]

"Cough... no sand at LoS son... just pebbles, tampons and cockles...."

[Northern Sold]

Bungo... it's the Essex thing ;-) Roids was absolutely rife when we was going in our 20's... we was at one of the few gyms that was `supposedly' drug/roids free... bloke (Roy Perrott) used to run it in Southend.. ex Mr Universe or something... had a photo of him in competition with Arnie one side and Lou Ferrigno up in his gym... all dead weights not a machine in sight... used to preach something rotten if he ever found anyone taking roids they would be banned.... anyway last I heard he supposedly got arrested in Newcastle for importing steroids or something... not sure if that was a rumour or not...

[Far Cough]

Northern Sold 11:38 Thu Jan 16 Re: Anxiety/depression BungoÔøΩ. Plenty of youngsters hit gyms back in the dayÔøΩ then everyone blamed Arnie and Charles AtlasÔøΩ. Sold got sand kicked in his face at Leigh on Sea

[Bungo]

"Northern Sold 11:53 Thu Jan 16 Perhaps we moved in different circles? I knew serious sport enthusiasts, not show ponies."

[Northern Sold]

Bungo... I'm 52.... I played Rugby at an early age so yeah gym work was a norm from a very young age... but even when I joined a gym membership when I was 18 it was full of young lads who wanted to make them selves look bigger... Pumping Iron was a massive video in our old video shop we run... was out all the time... young lads have always wanted to change their appearance

[Bungo]

"Northern Sold 11:38 Thu Jan 16 Sure, but out of the 100s of people I knew, they did it to improve their abilities at whatever sport they played, not to look like an inflated lump on the telly. Also, they did it for free at school and didn't require private gym memberships and have to buy other stuff to achieve it."

[Northern Sold]

Bungo…. Plenty of youngsters hit gyms back in the day… then everyone blamed Arnie and Charles Atlas….

[Bungo]

"Joe C 4:42 Thu Jan 16 ""I do think Bolty is right that this current age of people striving for acceptance, appreciation and gratification 24/7 isn't healthy."" ------------------------------------------------------------------------ I am convinced that this is a major problem. I would not be surprised if marketeers for many products aren't deliberately now employing psychological 'how to make our potential customers dissatisfied with their lot' tactics. Case in point - my youngest who is now 18, was obsessed for the last two years or so that he was too skinny and not as 'built' as the lunks he saw on Love Island etc, instead of being happy that he was an absolutely normal 16/17 year old physical build. Therefore he wanted weights/gym membership/bulking stuff etc that I would never have even thought of at his age. Mostly seems to come back to somebody somewhere making money off the dissatisfaction."

[Block]

"Nurse, just wanted to throw something into the conversation we had yesterday. Music, has a huge effect on peoples mood, especially if a song you love comes on you get happy dance sing etc etc. This is the same thing that can happen but in the opposite way, if you're subject to so much negative bollocks it's going to effect you."

[ironsofcanada]

"Mike Oxsaw 9:21 Thu Jan 16 Ha. More seriously, lot to admire and some things to avoid in Japanese culture, like a lot things in the world. My brother in law lived there for a three years in a couple stints and his wife is from there. He wrote his honours undergrad thesis (which I edited for him) on the treatment of foreigners (mostly other Asians, in the North American sense, if that makes sense). A viewpoint of an outsider, if a somewhat informed one but from that, Western cultures are certainly not the only one that could be called racist, if you want to throw that label around."

[Mike Oxsaw]

"""As a culture, Japan is a lot more uptight than Western countries""... That'll be the pixellation."

[Darby_]

"As a culture, Japan is a lot more uptight than Western countries like the UK. The uptightness there is a bit slifling to be honest, even as a tourist. I’d imagine that they’re less likely to admit their struggles with things like depression because they’ll lose face. I had an American friend who taught English there for a year. There was actually a rape in the school and the school completely covered the whole thing up, presumably because it didn’t want to lose face. Very different culture, so I wouldn’t take stats about the amount of people with claiming to have depression there too seriously. The suicide numbers are a more accurate reflection of the mental health problem in that country. Obviously if you’re about to top yourself, you don’t care about face any more."

[Joe C]

"After we got burgled in December 2017, I had a mental breakdown - mostly anxiety and panic attacks at first, but ultimately led to depression. Tried CBT, mindfullness etc, didn't work. Was put on Citalopram and that made me worse, even after the 6 week settling in period, and had a bad side effect in that I would completely lose concentration - often at the worst pssoible times (including in a driving lesson when I was about to go round a three lane roundabout and fucked that RIGHT up) All came to a head in summer 2018 and the irrational part of my brain decided the best way out was to kill myself. Knew what I was going to do and where and when I would do it. Only thing that stopped me was the rational part of my brain forcing in the realisation that I'm my mum's first born and she's already lost one son, and if I went through with it I doubt she'd ever recover. So I went back home and called the Samaritans who were amazing. I'm still here 18 months later, I'm on escitalopram now which has really helped and doesn't seem to have any side effects for me. I still have very dark days every now and again (like I did yesterday - not Darren Randolph related), but what the Samaritans helped me realise is that it's ok to feel like that and it's not the end. And if you do feel like it is, there's always someone there who can help you. You are never alone. So, in short, yeah, depression is fucking shit, but you can get through it. And I'm always available to talk to if you want to. As for what causes it, it's different for everyone - but I do think Bolty is right that this current age of people striving for acceptance, appreciation and gratification 24/7 isn't healthy. I barely go on twitter or FB anymore, and the other thing I've done is stopped reading newspapers - which have helped somewhat"

[Queens Fish Bar]

https://hbr.org/2020/01/how-to-manage-an-employee-with-depression?ab=hero-main-text&utm_source=twitter&utm_campaign=hbr&utm_medium=social

[Willtell]

"My wife and I have 3 dogs and no time to get depressed. Walking, training, feeding and clearing up their shit takes up a lot of time..."