Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[bruuuno]

It’s to do with the reward centres of the brain ^ dopamine etc

[bruuuno]

Sniper - my dad has developed many of the core symptoms since becoming addicted to Facebook these last few years. I’ve seen it happen before my eyes and being a natural adhd am familiar with the subtle signs

[Manuel]

"Sniper - That sounds rough mate, and I know what you mean. As an example can you watch a film for 2 hours or is that just not gonna happen? My anxiety is at it's worse as soon as I wake up with the first thought of ''oh bollocks'' but find once up and especially showered I start to feel better, at least for a bit anyway. I find that being in company can take your mind of things for a while, especially if having a laugh about stuff (laughter is the best medicine) it's only a short term fix but better than nothing."

[Mike Oxsaw]

"I find that being ruthless with IT helps, although it may just be me as I've worked all my life with and in it. No phone signal? Check again in one hour, not 30 seconds. Can't access a website? Go for a walk/cup of tea rather than banging on the connect button every 5 seconds. It's not easy - some people may even go cold turkey if they don't have the latest news the instant it happens - but what the fuck can they actually DO with that news???"

[Sniper]

"Bruuuno Really interesting you say that about adhd. I read an article about it the other day and about how modern society with screens and instant access to all information has greatly reduced everyone’s ability to switch off and keep focus on single things, and it’s almost triggering a ‘nurtured’ environment of adhd in some that starts later in life but still has the same issues This country is so far behind many others in our understanding, acceptance and treatment of anything mental health or brain related. I’m so lucky the Gp I saw years ago when my depression was at its worst was Scandinavian - she just understood and accepted it. I can’t concentrate on anything at all any more though. I have zero focus for anything. I feel in a constant state of anxiety all the time and I hate it - unused to be one of the most laid back people you could meet, now im a wreck who just hides it!"

[fraser]

*soon

[fraser]

"'67 Great that your family will be with you son. sounds great, maybe we'll catch up for a round there one day. Ha only thing is golf is enough to give me anxiety"

[Westham67]

Thank you gentlemen. It wasn't easy to start with sitting in an induction with people half my age. I have a CV builder but its not like you need any experience its 2 arms 2 legs and you are in interview .At the time I was thinking my career is over but to be honest my industry if fucked due to IR35 and rip off umbrella companies My kids will be over in the next 2 months or so and working as soon as they can I can get them in with someone. In the meantime all of us will pay for my Mrs settlement visa. I am 6 years older than my wife and the whole family have been informed when I retire I will go and live in my house in Thailand and play a bit of gulf and they can stay here and work. Both my kids want to study here

[fraser]

"Here's a link to a charity that supports men through mental health issues, a friend started it and they do some good work. They're there to talk to 24/7 https://hischarity.org.uk/"

[Manuel]

Exactly as Side says. Not too many keep fighting and fighting through adversity too. That is a tough gig. I am struggling myself and honestly don't think I could do what 67 has done. *tips hat*

[Mr Chocolate]

Westham67 I have been quietly following your story. I think you are very decent bloke. And willing to work out of your comfort zone for your family is bloody impressive. I sincerely wish you and your family all the very best for the future.

[Takashi Miike]

"67, whomail"

[Side of Ham]

"Thing is 67 even without your ailment I would still give yourself a LOT of credit. You're a do'er not a talk about doing an actual do'er. Hats off to you for the way you are willing to change your surroundings to earn your crust.....not many have that in their locker.....I know for a fact I would struggle.....hope the panic attacks stop and you sit back and think about what you actually achieve by taking on whatever it takes in order to get yourself a living.....even if you don't get the Stockport gig....give yourself credit for continually putting yourself out there.....fingers crossed for you though, that you do get it!"

[Side of Ham]

"Thing is 67 even without your ailment I would still give yourself a LOT of credit. You're a do'er not a talk about doing an actual do'er. Hats off to you for the way you are willing to change your surroundings to earn your crust.....not many have that in their locker.....I know for a fact I would struggle.....hope the panic attacks stop and you sit back and think about what you actually achieve by taking on whatever it takes in order to get yourself a living.....even if you don't get the Stockport gig....give yourself credit for continually putting yourself out there.....fingers crossed for you though, that you do get it!"

[Westham67]

"Strange stuff this ailment. Give me the full responsibly for the safety, quality and production for 140 Km of new build ballast track in the desert and I am not fazed in any way. Put me in a shit run warehouse and I have to go home from work after an hour phone the mental health crisis hotline get a GP phone appointment on the same and get 7 days sick and more if I want it with panic disorder Stockport council is my aim for the tram I am on the shortlist"

[bruuuno]

Bit = boy

[bruuuno]

"Mace66 - forgive me if I am wrong but didn’t you once post about your bit having a diagnosis of adhd? Adhd is highly genetic and is often at the root of all kinds of other mental health disorders: depression and anxiety for a start. Because there is so much ignorance about it even GPs don’t understand it so would be unlikely to spot it. The word ‘hyperactive’ is a misnomer as it refers to the brain rather than purely physical hyperactivity that we all associate with adhd. Adhd inattentive type (what I have) is far less obvious and can be far more insidious. Lots of women go undiagnosed because they don’t meet the stereotype of the hyperactive kid. The amount of ignorance surrounding the condition is shocking and many people spend years on antidepressants etc before they discover what is at the root of their depression. Anyone suffering from depression should read up on inattentive adhd because most professionals will absolutely not spot it unless they’re specialists in adhd, mainly due to the stigma and misinformation which is an absolute scandal. I’m not trying to be a prick here, am just trying to help and spread the word a bit. Respect to everyone involved in this thread for their candour. Good luck"

[Westham67]

As Manuel posted its not good being around people when they are talking money and you are not in that in that world anymore. Mates from overseas I have known from work know my wife and my kids have really helped me especially an Aussie who still lives in Penang

[Westham67]

It took my mind off it up until now Mike its still difficult to travel to Thailand I would have to do 2 weeks quarantine but Thailand are on the amber list for here at the moment and changes to red list there is nothing we can do about it

[Mike Oxsaw]

"Worrying about shit over which you have no control is a big stressor. Once you accept those limitations (and it's not always easy for a variety of reasons), a lot of the weight can drop from your shoulders."

[Westham67]

I had not seen my wife and kids for just over a year at the beginning of the lock down and once I knew neither of us could do anything about it made me fell better. Many people when I went to the UAE were in the same boat as me

[Manuel]

"Block -Sure, certainly wasn't suggesting everyone would think that, was just expanding on what mace originally said. It's similar to why many prisoners struggle if getting out after a long stretch as they are used to not having the option to do things or responsibilities like getting work and having bills to pay and they can't handle it, some actually prefer it behind the door."

[Block]

"Manuel, wasn't really that for me personally, I felt secure - I struggle badly with fear and anxiety, knowing I was at home every single day and there's nothing to really fear helped me a lot. IT was a struggle coming out of it though, getting back to ""normality"". Read a book called feel the fear but do it anyway by susan jefferies, helped me massively. Everyone is different obviously, so can totally understand how everyone being in the same boat can give you some sort of comfort."

[Manuel]

"I think mace pretty much nails it when saying the reason one may feel better in lockdown is because you know everyone is in the same boat. It's like if you are down on your luck/depressed and you say go to a pub and hear some dick telling everyone how wonderful his life is, you really don't want to hear it."

[Block]

"Mace, I was probably the best I'd been during lockdown, which was quite odd. It made me and the wife a hell of a lot closer as well, expecting our first kid helped no end as well though. Funny how from a really shit situation, good things can come of them! (Hope you're ok mate, by the way)"