Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Jasnik]

Well when you get to the third they can go head long into a wall and you just wait and tell them to get up.

[angryprumphs]

"Side of Ham 7:07 Fri Nov 5 Side is indeed correct, crying is a really good sign, if they are crying then generally less to worry about. Also the first one is the worse, you shit yourself about everything, if you get to the second you give far less of a shit (hope she isn't reading this)."

[Side of Ham]

"When my youngest was born there was no cry and she was blue! Then whipped off to be resuscitated and was from there gravely ill, got offered to have her given her last rites before being rushed off on her own to GOSH......6 months later she was fully discharged and I still shudder when I hear those beeping machines even if I catch a snippet of the shit that is Holby City...........when she cried/screamed......that was my reassurance she was alive well and fighting, and I was just so grateful. It may help you to know Block that the a baby crying/screaming is the most wonderful noise to me ever."

[Side of Ham]

"When my youngest was born there was no cry and she was blue! Then whipped off to be resuscitated and was from there gravely ill, got offered to have her given her last rites before being rushed off on her own to GOSH......6 months later she was fully discharged and I still shudder when I hear those beeping machines even if I catch a snippet of the shit that is Holby City...........when she cried/screamed......that was my reassurance she was alive well and fighting, and I was just so grateful. It may help you to know Block that the a baby crying/screaming is the most wonderful noise to me ever."

[Mike Oxsaw]

"Block 3:55 Fri Nov 5 I assume you've tried the simple things - like sitting on the sofa and letting him fall asleep in your arms? May take a few attempts but with luck he'll start relaxing and drifting off peacefully, at which point you should be able to put him in his own bed. Might take your stress levels down a bit, too."

[Block]

"66, thanks mate. Much appreciated. It's tough work, but he's my world and everything I do is for him now."

[Mace66]

Wouldn't change having the boy for the world That’s the bit you need to focus on kunt SON Kids are hard work especially when they’re ill and you have work to juggle as well. I can remember feeling a lot of what you’re going through. No doubt you’re doing your absolute best so stick in there mate and things will get better

[Block]

"Broke down last night, I'm absolutely shattered as I've taken more of a hands on role with the boy, I only work 4 days now so either at work or at home looking after him whilst the wifes at work. He's been really rough catching every cunting virus under the sun the last 3 months, and he's been having issues sleeping due to this fucking cough he's got which he gets in a state , so I've not slept much. Wouldn't change having the boy for the world, but i'm really, really struggling at the moment seeing him in pain and not sleeping as well as trying to adjust to a new routine."

[angryprumphs]

"Must add that my current employers (clients) have been fucking awesome, they are a French company who I have worked as a consultant for a year now. Despite being a consultant, they have given me PAID time off for both holidays and illness (depression). Again, this can make all the difference."

[angryprumphs]

"Manuel 3:13 Thu Nov 4 Going to be honest, I am actually pretty skint presently, living month to month (I dont actually have paid accommodation yet for next month) BUT what I do have is skills that i can do from anywhere and that pay a very good hourly rate. This firstly made it far easy for me to hide my issues from my employer and keep getting paid and when i did make the decision to get out is has made it very easy to relocate and keep working. I cant imagine what I would of done if I was working regular 9 to 5 at a location, I think I would be homeless right now. So I was really lucky because my circumstances allowed me to both conceal my issues and change my situation. The good news for me is that with the sale of my house going through, I will, once my debts are paid, have a reasonable lump sum to start again and with todays opportunities within my industry, it is really exciting for me."

[Block]

"I know you was mate, I was just highlighting how it can be different for different people."

[Manuel]

"Block - I was picking up on angry's post where he stated his financial position gave him a way out, which ultimately was his saving grace. Bigger picture."

[Block]

"Manuel, money can also be a huge issue for some. Money was my trigger with my addiction, as soon as I got money, I was on the phone to my dealer asking him to drop off my gear. All depends on the individual though."

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"I don't often come on this thread. I am the grey man. Not rich, not poor. Life not entirely devoid of difficulty but not much to slow me down and certainly never looked into the abyss. The last ten minutes reading have moved me to tears but also made me immensely proud that stigmas are being torn down and that the closed up 'real men get on with it, without talking about it' indicative of our generations are being torn down. It's also proving that it doesn't have to be all hippy, huggy, over sentimental. Just keep it simple and genuine. Big Love Whoers."

[Side of Ham]

"In fairness Angers, I think mashed aimed that more towards those who seem to drift into mental unhappiness. Yours mate is a bit more of a 'it could break all of us' where positive thinking would be quickly replaced by all sorts i'm guessing? Must take years just to except the fact these things have happened. Well done to you for putting yourself where you needed to be to recover.....I must admit I was thinking here's another person bragging about how they've escaped the rat race and are travelling the world.........how fucking wrong I was on that one! Goes to show never judge a book and all that........"

[Manuel]

"''I am VERY lucky, my personal / financial situation means that I could find a way out. Having gone through it, I can completely understand how some people could feel so trapped they feel they cant get out'' Yep, having money makes a big difference and gives you options and a way out. Being depressed is one thing, being depressed AND broke is something else entirely. Than can break a man. Regardless, as you say despite being lucky in that respect, you have still done well to get where you are now, as it sounds like you really did go through the ringer."

[angryprumphs]

"Thanks for the kind words, going to be honest, left 80% of it worst parts out..... I cant explain it but this morning I looked in the mirror and thought to myself ""fuck me, there you are!"" It genuinely feels like someone else has been living in my body for the last five years. I am VERY lucky, my personal / financial situation means that I could find a way out. Having gone through it, I can completely understand how some people could feel so trapped they feel they cant get out. mashed in maryland 1:46 Sat Oct 30 Sorry but I am going to have to pull you up on this, I was MR Positive Mental Attitude. The reason I got the nickname Angry at school was ironic, I was the positive one, I was the one who saw the up side in everything. I been through shit before and brushed it off. I was running club nights at 17, took over my parents large pub hotel at 20. I built 5 online shops in the 2000's which won multiple business awards, these then went under in the recession, sending me bankrupt but came back again to build another successful business. I was the LAST person you would think this could happen too. Then something happened that was out of my control that broke me, I reckon I probably had 3/4 mental breakdowns in the space of 5 years. I had weeks / months where I spent more time in bed than out of it. Was literally doing zoom meetings for work, with senior people, without them knowing I was still in bed smoking a blunt..... crying. This shit can happen to anyone, given the wrong chain of events, and once you are in it, it takes a fuck ton of positive mental attitude to just crawl out of it. Until you have been there, you have no idea."

[Block]

"Angry, That's some bloody story. So pleased to hear you've ""found yourself"" again, and what you went through is totally understandable IMO. IF you ever want to have a chat mate, without any judgement whomail me please."

[Pentonville]

"Angry. Wow mate, that's so story and fair play play finally sharing. If it's any consolation, the body is alot stronger than u realise. I have no right to be here if u laid out the amount of booze and drugs I took. A new start for u is just what the doctor ordered. Just stopping booze or drugs is great but needs to be monitored. I weaned off it under orders rather than just stopping and that was a highly respected doctor words. Ur daughter who had had troubles deserves alot of credit too for turning her life around. Keep us all in the loop of how Croatia is going. What a turnaround. Jonwhufc Well done mate. Its great to see or at least read all these people doing so much better. It really is good to talk it seems."

[JonWHUFC]

Had my second session of six tonight and going really well. Like this thread speaking to like minded people helps. We are not alone. Love to all of you and COYI xxx

[Dicko75]

Fair play angry and hats off to you for not only turning your own life around but also bringing your daughter through those darkest days. None of you can do anything about the past but you can and will the future. Good luck

[angryprumphs]

"Going to be honest, never been able to read this thread until the last 7 days, which is why I havent posted in it. Which in itself is a worry."

[angryprumphs]

"Ok, now it is my turn, been posting on here for a long time but never really allowed it to get personal but seeing some of the stories in here perhaps it is time I did. My story might help a few and some of you might be able to help me. As I posted in another thread, I have recently moved out of the family home and travelled to Croatia, we are in the process selling the house, I have two grown up daughters who are 19 and 21 (she was 21 today and it was the first of her birthdays I have missed). Like most marriages it has had its ups and downs but things really went tits up about 6 years ago, when my youngest daughter completely went off the rails (aged 12). She was sleeping boys, running away from home, doings various drugs, then she tried to kill herself for the first time. This is when I found out that she had been sexually abused by my late father in law, from the age of 8....... What made things worse is, I found out that my wife knew, as she too had been abused (but still let her parents look after our kids). The next 5 years were hell, she continued to rebel, we had social services involved, she went through 4 schools, rans away to London twice and attempted suicide 4 times, twice having to have her stomach pumped. The only way I could get close to her to discuss stuff was to slip back into old habits (I used to be a raver in the 90s') we ended up smoking weed together as I tried to help unravel her shit. Fast forward to 2020 and she was getting a lot better, she had somehow managed to get great GCSE results despite less than 50% attendance, the school also allowed her to work with me one day a week which was awesome and she then ended up getting a job in hospitality which she absolutely smashed! The problem was my own personal health (both physical and mental) was ruined. I was working remotely, so ended up not leaving my house at all, sometimes for weeks. I was smoking £500 worth of weed a month and drinking enough to sink a battleship to stop the nightmares. I still loved my wife but could not forgive what she had done. I was somehow managing to hold down a pretty high level job but when covid hit, that also went to shit. To be fair I was a shadow of the person they employed. So that brings us to the present, both my daughters are doing really well, one is at uni learning to become a 3d artist, the youngest has just been promoted to junior manager. Whilst I was sitting in my home office, having lost 2 stone through not eating (literally just smoking weed all day), and not sleeping due to nightmares unless I had at least a four pack. I was broken. I dont think I was ever quite suicidal but I 100% have a death wish, I felt lung cancer was far easier for the kids to deal with that finding me hanging in the garage. If a doctor had told me I had weeks to live, I would have said ""ok"". Hence why I took the decision to sell up and move away, I needed space, I needed somewhere to be me again. I used to be a very successful entrepreneur but I lost that a long time ago. Since moving out here I have given up smoking (8 days now without weed or tobacco), I have walked / run 30+ kms (I have no car here) and am back to smashing the shit out of work. Both my kids are so proud of the transformation and are so pleased to 'have me back'. You have no idea how deep you have got until you start to get out of it. I have no idea where this will go, or whether I have already fucked my body up to the point it doesnt matter anyway but I really feel like I used to 15 years ago. I feel like I can run through walls. So if you are struggling, you CAN do this. Cant believe I am going to post this, I have almost deleted it three times, going to be honest, I am in tears here, if anyone needs to talk, WHOmail me."

[wanstead_hammer]

Chuffed for ya 67. What a terrific early Christmas present. I bet you’re chomping at the bit. No smiling!

[wanstead_hammer]

Chuffed for ya 67. What a terrific early Christmas present. I bet you’re chomping at the bit. No smiling!