Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[wils]

"I'd like to echo much of what WHU(exeter) says below about there always being a way out. I'd add to what he says that when you really feel at a dead end and can't see how you can go on, lay off the alcohol completely and try to get a good night sleep. The alcohol might feel it's relaxing you and sending you off but it stops you getting the REM sleep that helps you heal and resolve stressful situations. If you can get a good 8hours of non-alcohol induced sleep you stand a much better chance of thinking creatively and working stuff out and at least clearing some of the fog."

[happygilmore]

"Blimey Ex, that was a lot to go through. You seem to have found an inner strength to cope. Life throws a lot of ups and downs. We really need to remind ourselves to make the best of our short time on this planet"

[WHU(Exeter)]

"I suffered from this, that and the other as a few years ago I had over a month period, of my Mum, Dad and sister all in such bad health, that every time my phone went, it could easily have been someone telling me that one of them had died. My Mum had dementia and had a stroke, my Dad was in a diabetic type coma in hospital and my sister couldn’t cope with it and I feared for her, with what turned out to be justifiable reasons. At the same time, I was learning a brand new system at work (from an outside source and not proper trainers) and had three quarters of my team out. On evenings would be travelling 80 miles back and forth to visit my Mum and Dad in separate towns, because the hospitals and care homes they were in were 20 miles apart. When my Mum did die during that time, my Dad came round thankfully, but he was diagnosed with dementia straight after. During Covid especially it was very hard to try to explain to him over the phone, why I couldn’t visit and the situation with my Mum. All in all it did me in eventually, and I’ve suffered from a lot of the anxieties explained on here by others. Think this thread has been brilliant though for offering ways out to people. One of the best bits of advice I’ve had is when you’re facing problems, no matter what they are, there are always solutions. Instead of your mind spinning all the time, in the middle of the night, or first thing every morning, try to dispel it all, wait for a time, your own time later on when you are calmer. Think of all the possible solutions to whatever it is you’re facing. Write down the pros and cons to all the solutions you can think of, whittle it down to the few solutions that you think you can go with, do it and dispel all the others crowding your mind."

[Westham67]

Mine was severe or clinical depression. It was only the therapy that got me out of in 3 weeks and then there was the low mood and anxiety to work on . Looking back I was suffering from depression and low mood for over 4 years

[Westham67]

Mine was severe or clinical depression. It was only the therapy that got me out of in 3 weeks and then there was the low mood and anxiety to work on . Looking back I was suffering from depression and low mood for over 4 years

[Willtell]

I am sorry to read that you've had troubles Debs. Keep smiling though and have a row with Surf & goose. You know that it'll make you feel better mate.

[Darlo Debs]

That depends what you mean by low level. Also people with depression that's not clinical Often have more than one low level.issue getting to them and so.dont know where to start in overcoming things and get totally overwhelmed. I ended up.losing my appetite and not taking my meds ( which basically keep me alive) over what you might consider low level.depression. One of which was grief. That alone can floor someone enough to cause them.to.want to kill.themselves. So yes while you have a point about serious mental.health issues it's not for anyone to say what is low level or not as you don't know how they are coping with what you perceive to be minor ills.

[Westham67]

From triage to completed therapy was 8 months. Under 16s are 18 month's + The medication is not a cure. The problem is GPs cannot prescribe or adust any mental health meds dosages and the even psychiatric nurses are is short supply. There is no support after threarpy and no supported get off the meds plan . I weaned myself of olanzapine when I was working in Qatar

[SurfaceAgentX2Zero]

"One of the problems in the UK is that far too much money has been diverted to low-level stuff, basically expensive drugs and therapy for a LOT of people feeling a bit down about various aspects of everyday life, and stripped away from serious mental health issues. Half the country seems to be on free or subsidised Prozac or Sertraline and yet people with serious mental health conditions are kicked out onto the street and left to the not so tender mercies of 'indifference in the community'."

[Coffee]

"""he went the extra mile to be a good host"" Always a sign of a quality person, imho."

[Manuel]

"I enjoyed Yogib's company back when in Dubai for a few days, he went the extra mile to be a good host, something that I appreciated at the time and still remember. Hope he is doing okay."

[chim chim cha boo]

"I've wanted to have a beer with you for a long time Moncs. Let's make it happen soon eh? I'm meeting up with the incorrigible LOUT Joe Royal tomorrow night for a few and a catch-up in the West End. I'm not on here all that much any more and he told me some pretty distressing stuff about another poster we know and love, YogiB. In fact Yogi, if you are around and reading this and there's anything you want or need, just reach out to us mate. I cannot fucking believe how unlucky you've been lately. I was talking to a doctor a good while ago when they were talking about dreading a third wave of Covid and I'll always remember what he said, 'the third wave is already well underway but it's not in the area you're looking for, it's an absolute tsunami of poor mental health'. I think most of us can agree with that."

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

chim chim cha boo 2:34 Wed Jul 5 I know that is not why you are sharing but you come accross as a class act. Happy to have that beer with you any time.

[Pentonville]

At least he has you fighting his corner. It's a shit show for sure but u are making headway slowly and i have everything crossed that u will get him out when is safe to do so. Maybe now they know you are watching their every move they will actually try and help him

[Mike Oxsaw]

"chim chim cha boo 2:34 Wed Jul 5 I am truly shocked that this sort of thing (still) goes on in the country of my birth - one that proclaims itself civilised and of the 1st world. I've seen shit like this - albeit at a distance - in (what were once known as) 3rd world countries as I've ploughed my way through life, but that was almost expected; the last thing I would have wanted to see is such practices in the UK, but here we are, in the 21st with exactly that. Best leave the reasons to another thread. All I can say is that I wish you and your brother the very best of luck and truly hope you can get him back to (at least a semblance of) normality."

[chim chim cha boo]

"I had my second ward meeting today and the difference was night and day now they have finally realised I'm no cսnt. Plus my brother's care worker was there and the mouthy cow who kicked off last time sat on her hands and didn't say a word. I walked in with his key worker, best pal Raj and me with a proper scowl on my face. I think last time it was assumed that I was a fruit that hadn't fallen far from my brother's tree. How wrong they are. THIS TIME, I got introduced to everyone in the room like I was an actual relative and not an inmate. They bent over backwards to be nice and it was hard not to take the piss, but I shut my big mouth. The consultant tried to sneak in the fact that my brother had some special kind of hatred for women so I piped in with 'no, hold on, he's clumped a fellow inmate, a male nurse and a female, that seems quite equal opportunity swinging and not particularly focused on women' so he dismissed that nastiness that stays on my brother's file forever. cսnt. Stayed forever and had to get into his bank account but of course they've never really had a call on behalf of a sectioned paranoid patient who is extremely ill. Two hours on the phone to Santender being passed between department after department until I met a lovely girl who asked a few security questions then said, oh stuff this, I feel so sorry for your predicament and I will let you straight into his account. By then my brother was absolutely sparko and made everything much, much harder but I eventually just grabbed his arm and put his thumb on the veriy status lock and paid all his back rent. Absolutely couldn't wake him up so asked a nurse to put him in a wheelchair and take him back to his room which later I found he hadn't bothered to do, fell off his chair and his head bounced off the ward floor which a couple of the cunts found highly amusing. Got home this evening and a nurse said he still wouldn't wake up, shallow breathing and they rushed him to a proper hospital. I spent a few hours thinking he was dead but eventually phoned the ward and he's sitting up in bed talking. I've lost count of the times I think I've lost my only immediate family member since he's been in there but I am going to get the fucker out by hook or by crook. Bless you for the kind words chaps. There are some of you I know but have never met. Hopefully sometime we can meet and have a beer and get to know one another better. My genuine heartfelt thanks x"

[chim chim cha boo]

"I had my second ward meeting today and the difference was night and day now they have finally realised I'm no cսnt. Plus my brother's care worker was there and the mouthy cow who kicked off last time sat on her hands and didn't say a word. I walked in with his key worker, best pal Raj and me with a proper scowl on my face. I think last time it was assumed that I was a fruit that hadn't fallen far from my brother's tree. How wrong they are. THIS TIME, I got introduced to everyone in the room like I was an actual relative and not an inmate. They bent over backwards to be nice and it was hard not to take the piss, but I shut my big mouth. The consultant tried to sneak in the fact that my brother had some special kind of hatred for women so I piped in with 'no, hold on, he's clumped a fellow inmate, a male nurse and a female, that seems quite equal opportunity swinging and not particularly focused on women' so he dismissed that nastiness that stays on my brother's file forever. cսnt. Stayed forever and had to get into his bank account but of course they've never really had a call on behalf of a sectioned paranoid patient who is extremely ill. Two hours on the phone to Santender being passed between department after department until I met a lovely girl who asked a few security questions then said, oh stuff this, I feel so sorry for your predicament and I will let you straight into his account. By then my brother was absolutely sparko and made everything much, much harder but I eventually just grabbed his arm and put his thumb on the veriy status lock and paid all his back rent. Absolutely couldn't wake him up so asked a nurse to put him in a wheelchair and take him back to his room which later I found he hadn't bothered to do, fell off his chair and his head bounced off the ward floor which a couple of the cunts found highly amusing. Got home this evening and a nurse said he still wouldn't wake up, shallow breathing and they rushed him to a proper hospital. I spent a few hours thinking he was dead but eventually phoned the ward and he's sitting up in bed talking. I've lost count of the times I think I've lost my only immediate family member since he's been in there but I am going to get the fucker out by hook or by crook. Bless you for the kind words chaps. There are some of you I know but have never met. Hopefully sometime we can meet and have a beer and get to know one another better. My genuine heartfelt thanks x"

[Pentonville]

Joe I'd say go see them or send someone close by to see them face to face. I'd never reply on WhatsApp in situation like this

[joe royal]

"If someone is feeling ‘a bit down’ and ask you not to contact them until they feel better should you honour their wishes or send a text every couple of days? She has a history of this (sectioned twice to my knowledge) but seems to be getting worse with age. Used to blame it on PMS, but at 59 I’d guess those days are over."

[Matthew Holmes]

Bloody hell Chim. So sorry to hear this. What a total bustard some hospitals are. Keep chin up and consider that safeguarding coz it sounds like it's 100% got basis. What would they have to do next? Move him? Can you complain up the chain Of command? Good luck.!

[Westham67]

Turner ward was really bad according to my family and because I was not violent after my family's protests as other patients were telling them I had fallen over and the psychiatrist has written me off with Korsakoff syndrome ( Which is an incurable and caused by alcohol consumption) . I got moved to stage ward. I remember one massive bloke was dropped off by his family and was asking where his wife was and it went off with 2 of the wardens. I saw him whem I was discharged and he was heavily medicated. I make you right about some of the nurses

[chim chim cha boo]

"Genuine thanks chaps, today at Goodmayes was a day Kafka would have struggled writing. 'Here to see Chim the younger'? African cսnt looks me up and down greeting me with 'you know your brother attacked another member of staff last night who had to go to A&E and they want to press charges?' 'Yes, the first two times he was shocking but as none of you have once tried to call me and ask about his history but decided to treat him your way, I have to say that I have limited sympathy. It's like I am a service number that solves problems and you have not bothered calling it because your resident consultant doesn't think that family members could possibly have anything to add to your God- like abilities to diagnose treatment '. I went into a room with 4 African women on laptops and the consultant leaning back on his chair looking at his watch. Without introducing any of the people in the room or telling me their roles he glanced at his watch and said 'so you are here to talk about your brother's past history and treatment'. He looked at his watch and said 'you have twelve minutes starting...now' Remember, this is the first face to face contact I have had with a doctor in nearly eight weeks. , It went south from there. 'yes, yes, yes you have already told us that he suffers from night terrors and needs regimented sleep but we ARE treating him and he's asleep now'. 'yes but exhausted sleep is NOT what he needs. He needs you to give him a sleeping pill at 10pm and say 'it's time to sleep'. 'I repeat we are medicating him but I can't tell you with what as we need his consent to tell you '. 'Really? and how is taking a wild guess on his medication working out for you and your staff '? 'He's already hospitalised three of you. The first two I'll put on my dangerous paranoid brother who has never hit a nurse in his life. By the third I think it starts to reflect badly on you rather than him'. So, 67 and others who have suffered the stinking pit that is Goodmayes hospital, you will be dismayed to hear if anything, it's now worse"

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"Chim, Mate that sucks, but you are still standing, you haven't lumped anyone so can still be there for him and there will be an end in sight. Big soppy virtual hug mate, Best wishes for the outcome you want."

[charleyfarley]

"My old man was in Goodmayes 35 years ago, it was a dump then so god knows what it's like now. Before he was actually transferred to Goodmayes we were advised to have a look at the place to prepare ourselves an absolutely awful awful place, to be fair we did get good feedback from the medical staff but I would imagine with lack of funds, things are much much worse now. My sympathies Chim the place was hell hole then"

[Westham67]

chim chim cha boo 6:12 Sun Jun 25 Goodmayes was where I was Turner ward (Of which I have no memory)was the rough one for violent people. Stage ward war for non violent patients . There are no locks on the doors so get anything of value off of hims . There was a male nurse who used to cut our hair for us