Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Mike Oxsaw]

"zico 7:42 Mon Feb 12 What can one say? Sorry to hear the news about your mum, naturally, but for you? Well done. I'm sure others will embellish those words because it's an achievement worthy of more than just those two small collections of letters."

[charleyfarley]

Well done Zico

[lab]

Well done Zico

[zico]

"Hi all hope all are well.. Been a funny old year and coming up to a year in a month or so since mum passed with dementia. Probate and all that bollocks still going on and only interred the ashes last week. Didn't know someone dying took so long to sort out! Hopefully she is up there listening to the old man moaning about yesterdays result! Anyway didn't know here else to share this but it's a pretty big thing for me so hope you don't mind. Used to have a pretty big gambling issue with slots and cards which culminated in having such a bad break in Vegas I couldn't afford a Burger King at the airport! Pretty much screwed up the relationship I had at the time although thankfully we are still great friends with both being happy on our own but do lots together including holidays, albeit not to Vegas anymore. Thankfully we weren't married with no kids so no-one was hurt financially except the berk here. Upon my return went to gambling counselling, self excluded from all Casinos and bar a £20 entry fee on a poker tournament on our cruise in 2019 haven't gambled heavily at all. All I do now is lottery and £3 each week with a mate on the football scores, so just a bit of fun. Up until Christmas I ensured he was the one who went into the betting shop to put the bets on be4cause I couldn't be sure I would walk past those slot machines. Over Christmas though my mate went down with flu so I took on the challenge and it's now 12th February and although we now alternate weeks when we pop in I just walk past those machines on the way in and on the way out with no desire o plonk a fiver in. If I did I probably would get drawn in again but I'm determined not to go there. Got a holiday with the ex planned again in May but will stick with any £20 poker tournament for an hour as it's only a bit of fun. The point of this post is that I honestly didn't think I had it in me to resist but so far I am managing it and a lid is on the monster. Will be careful to not get sloppy. It's pretty much 10 years to the day since I sat on that plane home feeling really shit and like a dickhead but 10 years on as silly as it sounds quite proud of myself I didn't fall off a cliff and as I say at the moment have the lid on that monster. Shows what you can do and those dark thoughts I had back then are long gone. If I can apply myself that way to the fags that will be something but I'll save that effort until after this years holiday! Cheers all."

[Haz]

"Thanks Fraser. Charley, difficult at the beginning, mate. But the alternative was so much worse."

[charleyfarley]

"Great post Chim - Well done Haz that must have been very difficult to do mate. West Ham 67 glad to see things all seem to be going in the right direction, you've worked hard to get on top of your problems well done mate"

[fraser]

Haz - well done

[Haz]

"I'm 39 years clean and sober today. For me, one is too many, a thousand never enough. Best move I've ever made tbh. Good luck to you gents on your respective journeys."

[fraser]

Nice to hear you're doing well '67

[Westham67]

MPI . Very true I didn't know until I had finished CBT . Once I started my recognize my own negative thoughts I realized I had been sick for over 5 years

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"67, That paragraph encapsulates your progress, there are no guarantees in this life but knowing oneself, especially areas where we need help and going to get it before its apparent you need it? My friend that is massive. Good luck x"

[Westham67]

I start therapy again today. Its my brother's cancer diagnosis I having anxiety attacks again plus low mood..At least I can recognise it now. I didn't know what CBT was until I read it on this thread. Very helpful to share on here rather worry family

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"January gets a bad rap, mostly 'cause it has to tidy up the mess caused by Decembers afterparty :-) Everyday in January the days are getting longer, I see that every day on my dog walks. Yes January is cold but it is not often wet, making it ideal for wrapping up warm and getting out for fresh air. Pubs, restaurants and even supermarkets are quiet so if you can keep some powder dry in December it's actually a nice time to get out without the freaks and support local businesses. Stay lovely WHOers keep looking to the light."

[Sniper]

"That’s a great post chim. Hope everyone is doing ok. Long dark nights, cold weather, no money and crap hammers performances aren’t a great cocktail in January. This thread is a genuine light for many, thanks to all those who contribute to keep it that way"

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

Good post Chim and very typical of you. The Season of goodwill shouldn't have a hangover period but it often does.

[chim chim cha boo]

"Gentlemen I hope we all got through Christmas and New Year relatively intact? If you are over 10 years old Christmas, for me anyway, just becomes a time for reflection and that can lead to melancholy, especially if you don't have good company to share it with. Then the credit card bills start rolling in and you realise how much you spent and overspent. Between now and the end of February are traditionally the hardest weeks of the year as Christmas started in October and adverts, shops and the media goaded you and me to spend more than we have and now we have to face the consequences. It's a lot of old bollocks for a few Brussels sprouts once a year, isn't it? Hold steady boys, one foot in front of the other, make it to the end of another day, do some exercise if you can like getting out and walking round the block and keep your chin guarded. I wish ALL of you the very best. Just PLEASE get through January and February."

[Westham67]

"The Sacred History , by Johnathon Black award winning book. How Mystics and Higher Intelligence Made Our World First Well worth a read if you want to get your head in order along with Carl Jung has the world got a soul Life is suffering, in one was or the other. In the days of Sanskrit things were being written the were being written in different parts of the world that were with a similar mantra everything including humans are connected to the cosmos. All one mass"

[Westham67]

"The Sacred History , by Johnathon Black award winning book. How Mystics and Higher Intelligence Made Our World First Well worth a read if you want to get your head in order along with Carl Jung has the world got a soul Life is suffering, in one was or the other. In the days of Sanskrit things were being written the were being written in different parts of the world that were with a similar mantra everything including humans are connected to the cosmos. All one mass"

[fraser]

Manuel - that's a very good post with some great advice

[Manuel]

"Chevy - I'm with you to an extent, I do think there is still an argument for the old school ''man up and just get on with it'' attitude, as I suspect many just feel sorry for themselves and kind of accept their ''fate'' without fighting too much, as Ricky Gervais says we're all going to die soon anyway and none of this will even matter - but realistically it's not as easy as that for many, and obviously depends on the persons exact circumstances, are they responsible for others, do they have an illness or medical problems, and are they strong as a person or not, etc. As for going to Magaluf, well you can't if your problems are financial, and you only take your problems with you anyway, it's not as easy as sitting at the back of a cheap Ryan Air flight for a few hours get off at the other end and all is well in the world again. Anyway, I hope all people struggling turn a corner this year, if ever there's a time to at least try to be positive it's at the start of a new year. I've observed there are a few posters who have had documented problems in recent times that haven't been posting for a while, so hope they are all OK and staying strong."

[chevy chase]

I sort of know what you’re on about but fuck it. We’re only here once. Try to make the best of it. Or go Magaluf.

[Tomshardware]

"Having read up on autism, I seem to tick quite a few boxes for it on the 'High functioning' end of the spectrum. It may be 'high functioning' but I just about get by but there's a fair bit of avoidance of things in day to day life."

[J.Riddle]

"Birds help a lot its a fact, as dogs or any pets. You don't need to have a bird as a pet though you can go birdwatching which gets you outside fresh air walking, exercise in countryside or in the City local park/garden feeding Pidgeons bird seed. Short 3 minute clip will warm your heart. https://youtu.be/EhIDxioSomw?feature=shared"

[Fifth Column]

"Agree with a lot of this on here: - Mike is right, to improve mental and physical health you don't have to absolutely cane any cardio exercising like you're a gym bunny or Mo Farah. Regular fast walking, medium pace cycling, anything that marginally increases pulse etc. - Talking therapy is really useful. It's good to talk to friends and family - do that if you can but in addition if your GP can speak to you once a week like mine did in early 2021 when I had some issues due to my job at the time. It doesn't have to be a therapist necessarily. - Re anti depressants, I had chronic headaches for about a month and was prescribed something to ""turn off"" the nerves in my brain causing the headaches/to deactivate them. Whilst I was on that drug I felt like I was on speed - felt amazing mentally. After a few days I read the instructions in the box about taking them - turned out they were also used as anti depressants. And I'd been prescribed 1/16th of the maximum dose. And I felt like I was flying on those. Probably because I wasn't depressed to start with but wow. I can understand people being prescribed them when chemical imbalance in brain isn't correct. I stopped taking them but I didn't really want to because I felt amazing."

[Darlo Debs]

Lack of thyroxine causes depression......take care if you have depression and can't figure out why. Get checked out ( blood test). I mean obvs this is a double edged sword as if you are depressed and are already on thyroxine the temptation to stop.taking them can be quite overwhelming.