Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[normannomates]

Block 6.41 And there it is.. Fair fucks Block

[Tomshardware]

"one iron 8:07 Tue Dec 8 Agree with that, I used to bottle things up but in recent years I have let emotions come to the surface and there is no shame in shedding tears."

[Northern Sold]

Ha ha ha... very good Mike

[Block]

"AG!!!!!!! (I wasn't suggesting having a kid to cure depression) It's just given me a purpose, I completely lost all purpose in my dark days."

[Mike Oxsaw]

I wouldn't recommend getting a kid for depression. You can't even get one for Ipswich away.

[Block]

"Definitely changes you, Iron son. I'd probably be dead, in all honesty."

[one iron]

"When i had my boys it changed me, without them i would have done alot of time."

[Side of Ham]

He probably needed winding Block son........ :-)

[Block]

"Since the birth of my boy, (sorry I do go on about him a fair bit) I've not once had any issues with my anxiety, I guess you don't really have time. However, the absolute joy of having a kid is nothing like I can ever explain, he smiled at me for the first time last night and i burst into tears. The dark, dark days I had sniffing stupid amounts of gear, drinking and gambling are long gone now, The kid has made me a man at last."

[one iron]

"All you lovely people on this site, boys never think that its weak to cry, its better to let it out then keep it in. In the last few years i would have filled a bath tub up,you get good and bad days, i think i get 10 good days with 30 bad ones out of 40 days,you can be lonely in a crowd thats for sure,"

[one iron]

"Billt its easy to just give up,ive had 3 great mates go this year you have.to set yourself goals, if you like holidays plan your trips in advance. this means you always have something to look forward to, do a plan b so if the first one goes tits up you still have something to look forward to, try finding some nice places to walk,i found this helped me, and billy ive been to hell and back, i wish you well mate."

[Sniper]

"Billy That’s just horrendous mate. Nobody should be expected to know how to or to be able to deal with that level of heartbreak, pain and misery. I am genuinely sorry for everything you’ve been through. I hope things get even slightly easier for you sometime very soon"

[Pickle Rick]

Billy Blagg 1:14 Thu Nov 26 I can empathise with that although mine is not to the extent yours is\was. I'm hoping the counselling will help me as its affecting my work and I still have 19 years to do to retirement so have to get a handle on this.

[Pickle Rick]

"Sniper 3:56 Tue Nov 24 Thanks Sniper, I appreciate your response."

[lab]

"Jeez Billy what a terrible run that is .You’ve got this far mate, it will get better."

[Billy Blagg]

"I've had three deaths in three years; Lady B in 2018, my dad last year and my mum this. I'm on my own now - no siblings - and though I've two kids they live a way away and, in any case, I don't want my life to impact theirs. I tried counselling both bereavement and Psychotherapy and I didn't get anything from either. I'm just trying to work through it on my own but it has been hard this year. I do wonder if you ever come through, to be honest. I guess it depends on where you are in your life and your prospects for some improvement. If I can get away on holiday and so some normal things then I hope '21 will be marginally better."

[Billy Blagg]

"I've had three deaths in three years; Lady B in 2018, my dad last year and my mum this. I'm on my own now - no siblings - and though I've two kids they live a way away and, in any case, I don't want my life to impact theirs. I tried counselling both bereavement and Psychotherapy and I didn't get anything from either. I'm just trying to work through it on my own but it has been hard this year. I do wonder if you ever come through, to be honest. I guess it depends on where you are in your life and your prospects for some improvement. If I can get away on holiday and so some normal things then I hope '21 will be marginally better."

[Balto]

"I posted on this thread back in the early days, and people were very sympathetic. I am amazed at how constructive this is. I followed quite a bit of the advice. I have done quite a bit of therapy in my life but have given it a rest for the past couple of years. I got into a row with the Missus about a week ago, and after the dust had settled, she told me I was depressed and needed to see someone. My default is that I try and focus on changing something in my real world, and after that, everything will be alright. That's all well and good, but often the cause is much deeper. However, I am going to get outside every day in the fresh air and exercise that makes a world of difference. Seeing that Lanzini goal go in with my son sat beside me was priceless and made my weekend."

[Sniper]

"Pickle That’s awful, I’m so sorry to hear that. But hopefully the sessions will be good for you"

[Pickle Rick]

"I'm starting counselling next Monday as I've been struggling over the past 4 weeks, it's more bereavement counselling to deal with issues I didn't when my Dad died in front of me when I was 13. My trigger has been turning the same age he was when he died."

[lab]

Good post Sniper . The first sentence made me smile too!

[Sniper]

"The advice and support on here really is amazing - not bad for a load of people who spend most of their time just calling each other cunts! I’ve put a few things on here before to try to help. I’ve had, and still have, a horrid time with depression. At times it feels overwhelming, unbearable and unending. And the frustrating thing as well is that I feel like you only get one strike with it - if you tell someone you’re suicidal or things are too much, in fairness you get sympathy and support. That doesn’t happen half as much the second time round But, regardless, the point I wanted to make was this. I once read an article about a study into flu like viruses that showed that, in the days where you are most contagious before all the symptoms comes out, something in it he pathogens makes you want to be more sociable. It makes you want to come into contact with more people. So it can spread. It makes you want to do the one thing you shouldn’t in order to stamp it out. Mental illness is the same. It may not be caused by a pathogen or a virus, but somehow it acts in the same way. It makes you feel useless, worthless and undeserving. It makes you feel thy at others shouldn’t talk to you or be around you. I make this distinction a lot - I didn’t want to see people, but it wasn’t because I didn’t want to be around them; it was because I didn’t want them to have to be around me. Depression makes you feel like you should isolate yourself away. And that way it breeds even more. It makes you feel that you shouldn’t talk. And that way you do t deal with it. And it makes you feel that you deserve to feel that way - so you don’t look for help. It’s no different an illness to other more tangible and well understood ones, but people’s ignorance leads to fear and stigma and that too stops people reaching out. It’s natural to not feel like talking or wanting help - and that’s what the illness wants. And, being brutally honest, not every person you speak to is helpful or understanding or sincere or supportive. In the same way that some people dont know how to cope or what to say if someone they know tells them they’ve got cancer or they’ve had a miscarriage or loses a limb, some people can’t with mental illness. But most people can. Most people try. And almost all people want to help. And just reaching out and seeing that can be enough to start pulling you in the right direction. So thank you to everyone on this thread for offering support. And (and I apologise as there’s no way to say this without it sounding immensely patronising) well done to all those who’ve reached out. I say that with all sincerity. It’s not easy, but it does get less hard the more you do it."

[Tomshardware]

lab 5:41 Wed Nov 11

[Bungo]

"peachy75 2:47 Sun Nov 8 ""Never stop taking your meds( not a single pill should be missed) just missing one can start the downfall."" Just to add to that, when it is the right time to come off the meds, make sure you do it as per clinical instructions. That is, very slowly with a slow tapering down of the dose, taking pills alternate days etc. It's dull and very slow (weeks or even months), but you will be glad you did longer term."

[lab]

Good post Peachy .