Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[angryprumphs]

"Northern Sold 1:23 Tue Nov 16 Shit news mate, have been through all this and it is far harder to see your kids with it and have it yourself to be honest. Talk to her, LISTEN to her, dont question anything, she will only hear the negatives from your conversations, so you do really need to focus on positives. Get her professional help, you will probably have to pay for it but it really does help."

[Mike Oxsaw]

Northern Sold 1:23 Tue Nov 16 Bad news. Can you bring her home for a reset? Shit times we're in where what worked when we were that age no longer apply. At least she'll be in familiar company back home while she gets herself back together.

[Block]

"Sold0, sorry to hear that mate. What AD's she on?"

[Northern Sold]

Well just found out my 19 year old daughter has been stuck on AD’s…. gone from a fun girl full of life into an absolute shadow of herself… that’s a shit university life and lockdown for you …

[Sydney_Iron]

"All the best 67, nice to hear it all coming together, particularly liked the story of your boy and the Liverpool game, made me smile you old rascal!"

[Westham67]

Its good to see them and help them help themselves my daughter (no link ) has a job already. I love them to bits

[Irish Hammer]

"67, hope your enjoying every minute with them. Have a ball mate 👍🏻"

[Texas Iron]

Commiserations Block/Boltkunt üòáüòá

[Westham67]

Yeah I did. I told him Liverpool won and the watched MOTD2 with him he did see the funny side

[Lee Trundle]

"""They arrived on time on Sunday my boy like many Thais is a Liverpool fan."" I hope you got in his face after we beat them, '67! (only joking - happy for you that they're all here)"

[Lee Trundle]

"""They arrived on time on Sunday my boy like many Thais is a Liverpool fan."" I hope you got in is face after we beat them, '67! (only joking - happy for you that they're all here)"

[Westham67]

Its been a knackering 2 days. They arrived on time on Sunday my boy like many Thais is a Liverpool fan. They looked so young my paternal instinct kicked in and I have gone into protective mode. I was ready to land one on a bloke who looked a bit moody near my boy

[angryprumphs]

"mashed in maryland 3:34 Mon Nov 8 To be honest, I might just be a bit touchy because i have just come out of the other end of this shit and it is still very raw. I cant believe the bloke I changed into from the one I was, I was chairmen of the local round table, was a local apprenticeship ambassador, I thought i was bullet proof. Yes the shit that I had to deal with was hardcore but not sure that means anything, once it gets you, if gets you and it doesnt want to let go. it also DOES NOT understand reason at all. From the outside I had everything, two lovely kids, great job, nice wife, big 5 bed house..... inside I had fuck all. So no worries, I dont have any grudges on here (ok mayby one or two), and dont plan to start now. Just here to support fellow Hammers on there journey to beat the black dog."

[Block]

"Tom, it's hard work - as every day I'm not at work I'm looking after the baby. So get no time to myself and he's at the age where he's on the move, so it's non stop all day. Throw into it lack of sleep, and you're onto a recipe for disaster."

[Tomshardware]

"Block, I'm in the same boat in regards to work sharing and child care duties. I find it difficult at times as well."

[mashed in maryland]

"angryprumphs 11:48 Thu Nov 4 Not here to bicker, but just to clarify, there was a reason I said ""a lot of"" and not ""all of"". I don't think we disagree at all."

[Block]

"Overbuyer, you haven't offended me, you've just come across as a bit of a cսnt, to be honest. If you had read my post, you'd have seen that the reason I had a break down was because not only am I massively sleep deprived, I've gone from being a working dad to being a working and stay at home dad, whilst the wife has gone to work. As I rely heavily on a routine, this has completely thrown me out, add into it a sick child and lack of sleep = the break down."

[Block]

"Overbuyer, you haven't offended me, you've just come across as a bit of a cսnt, to be honest. If you had read my post, you'd have seen that the reason I had a break down was because not only am I massively sleep deprived, I've gone from being a working dad to being a working and stay at home dad, whilst the wife has gone to work. As I rely heavily on a routine, this has completely thrown me out, add into it a sick child and lack of sleep = the break down."

[Pentonville]

Westham67 today is the day right? üôå

[angryprumphs]

"Westham67 7:16 Sat Nov 6 18 hours, love the way you are counting it down, man cant even comprehend how excited you must be"

[Westham67]

Overbyyer . Thanks for you positive contribution I'm sure block will let you know if you have unintentionally upset him. Rational and mental iliness/ depression doesn't apply. I have my second 2 hour appointment with a clinical psychologicist on Monday .It's all 4 years late that's why itsunami all happening so quickly Inshalah I see my kids for the first time for 2 and a half years in 18 hours they both have jobs to start.

[angryprumphs]

"overbyyer 7:11 Sat Nov 6 Sorry, dont mean to be a tosser, sure you had the best intentions and I might well be over reacting."

[overbyyer]

I think I'll bale out - last thing I want to do is antagonize anyone. Good luck to you all.

[angryprumphs]

"""Help me out here, I'm struggling to understand what in that scenario has made you break down?"" - Could be Dont worry Block, shame you have hit a bit of a bump but you have got this, focus on where you have got too and all the positive things in your life. - then list all the positives (see the difference?) One thing you need to remember with people that are depressed, they will take ALL the negatives out of conversations."

[angryprumphs]

"Cool, just that language is important. About six months ago when i was is a really dark place, I dropped a plate, that was it a normal household plate, this lead me to storm out of my house and go sit in a field with my dog for three hours crying. The is no rhythm nor reason sometimes. A better way of addressing it would have not been questioning his right to have a breakdown but instead reinforcing the fact it is ok and THEN adding a BUT (outlining all the positives)"