Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[bruuuno]

Bit = boy

[bruuuno]

"Mace66 - forgive me if I am wrong but didn’t you once post about your bit having a diagnosis of adhd? Adhd is highly genetic and is often at the root of all kinds of other mental health disorders: depression and anxiety for a start. Because there is so much ignorance about it even GPs don’t understand it so would be unlikely to spot it. The word ‘hyperactive’ is a misnomer as it refers to the brain rather than purely physical hyperactivity that we all associate with adhd. Adhd inattentive type (what I have) is far less obvious and can be far more insidious. Lots of women go undiagnosed because they don’t meet the stereotype of the hyperactive kid. The amount of ignorance surrounding the condition is shocking and many people spend years on antidepressants etc before they discover what is at the root of their depression. Anyone suffering from depression should read up on inattentive adhd because most professionals will absolutely not spot it unless they’re specialists in adhd, mainly due to the stigma and misinformation which is an absolute scandal. I’m not trying to be a prick here, am just trying to help and spread the word a bit. Respect to everyone involved in this thread for their candour. Good luck"

[Westham67]

As Manuel posted its not good being around people when they are talking money and you are not in that in that world anymore. Mates from overseas I have known from work know my wife and my kids have really helped me especially an Aussie who still lives in Penang

[Westham67]

It took my mind off it up until now Mike its still difficult to travel to Thailand I would have to do 2 weeks quarantine but Thailand are on the amber list for here at the moment and changes to red list there is nothing we can do about it

[Mike Oxsaw]

"Worrying about shit over which you have no control is a big stressor. Once you accept those limitations (and it's not always easy for a variety of reasons), a lot of the weight can drop from your shoulders."

[Westham67]

I had not seen my wife and kids for just over a year at the beginning of the lock down and once I knew neither of us could do anything about it made me fell better. Many people when I went to the UAE were in the same boat as me

[Manuel]

"Block -Sure, certainly wasn't suggesting everyone would think that, was just expanding on what mace originally said. It's similar to why many prisoners struggle if getting out after a long stretch as they are used to not having the option to do things or responsibilities like getting work and having bills to pay and they can't handle it, some actually prefer it behind the door."

[Block]

"Manuel, wasn't really that for me personally, I felt secure - I struggle badly with fear and anxiety, knowing I was at home every single day and there's nothing to really fear helped me a lot. IT was a struggle coming out of it though, getting back to ""normality"". Read a book called feel the fear but do it anyway by susan jefferies, helped me massively. Everyone is different obviously, so can totally understand how everyone being in the same boat can give you some sort of comfort."

[Manuel]

"I think mace pretty much nails it when saying the reason one may feel better in lockdown is because you know everyone is in the same boat. It's like if you are down on your luck/depressed and you say go to a pub and hear some dick telling everyone how wonderful his life is, you really don't want to hear it."

[Block]

"Mace, I was probably the best I'd been during lockdown, which was quite odd. It made me and the wife a hell of a lot closer as well, expecting our first kid helped no end as well though. Funny how from a really shit situation, good things can come of them! (Hope you're ok mate, by the way)"

[Mace66]

"67 - interesting comment about feeling better in lockdown. Maybe it was a bit of a leveller, everyone in the same boat. You only have to go on social media to see ‘what brilliant lives’ people have. You don’t hear about their problems. Until we have a lockdown …."

[Westham67]

"Thanks gents. I started doing this sort of work about November 19. There was supposed to be a 5 year spending period for Network tax year 19/20 but because nothing much is manufactured in this country for the railway the uncertainty of what duties would be paid over those 5 years all the work dried up .I got a job for and agency at Tesco distribution centre in Purfleet. I was in a bad way all through the winter but when the lockdown started in March for some reason I felt better. Its 18 month since I got the coping thing going on and I worked it out a couple of nights ago its the place itself its a shambles compared to Tesco and its freaking me out, I have an interview Lidl warehouse Edmonton Green which a brand new on the first of 1st September,"

[White Pony]

"You’re a good chap, 67. Always been decent on here and looked out for me too. As the previous comment said, your employer will know your true worth. Don’t sweat a couple of mistakes. WHOmail me if you want to chat mate."

[Pentonville]

WESTHAM67 DM ME.

[Block]

"67 - Hope you're ok mate. Remember, you're only human mate and it's sods law that mistakes tend to happen in batches. I'm sure your employers know your true value and put this down to having a bad day. Keep your chin up."

[Mace66]

Quetiapine and Sertraline

[Pentonville]

Wow. What were you on mate

[Mace66]

"Pentonville, I’m talking 6 years ago now and it was definitely depression according to the quack at the secure unit I was in for 3 weeks I ended up on meds for 18 months and then was weaned off them and apart from a bit of a wobble 2 years ago no problems"

[Pentonville]

"Westham 67. How are u mate. Mace even those who are suicidal get out of bed and kill themselves. I'm not sure refusing to get up is depression, could be anxiety for a situation that day? How u feeling about tomorrow?"

[Pentonville]

"Westham 67. How are u mate. Mace even those who are suicidal get out of bed and kill themselves. I'm not sure refusing to get up is depression, could be anxiety for a situation that day? How u feeling about tomorrow?"

[Westham67]

"Mace66.Very true I do the same and well done Jon the first step is the hardest one to take I had a relapses last week with the coping /panic thing a pallet of goods fell over and I restacked it and because I was in a state I put the wrong label on it and it got sent to the wrong destination . When I found out what I had done the next night my head went and I fucked another one up and picked up pallets instead of cages. They have been good with me and put me on stuff that I cannot fuck up. I need to keep this job for another 3 months and both my kids will come over they have their British passport and they can work and then we pay £3200 for my wife indefinite leave to remain which means she can work. Which will be great for me to be close to my family at last. Working overseas has it benefits but missing birthdays and watching them grow up is not one of them On the railway front NR jobs for the boys. I 2 applications in with Balfours. An agent contacted about Indian High speed railway for L&T another agent in middle east about work there(They money is being spent now the pandemic is going away), The one I applied for that I really want is 29k a year for Stockport council rail manger for building a new tram"

[Mace66]

Good luck Jon It’s all well and good doing the small things but depression can be so crippling that even them things seem impossible to do. Hopefully it’s all in the past but I’ve been in such a state that getting out of bed is like mission impossible. Laying there calculating the absolute latest time I’d need to get up to get to work on time. Then you chop a bit off and decide you won’t bother with a shower … or a shave …. all to lay in the safety of your pit for a few extra minutes. Horrible horrible way to be but people need to Know it’s not just them on their own that’s when having someone to talk to helps otherwise it’s and endless spiral

[JonWHUFC]

Hi all thanks for the messages of support. Got first counselling session on Monday and just making the first step has helped. Going to be a long road. Already doing little things and opened up to some more friends. Cheers.

[Dicko75]

Irish. Spot on…small things are vital. Most important job trained to US Navy Seals….making your bed!! Here’s why… https://youtu.be/KgzLzbd-zT4

[Manuel]

"Irish - Yep, never a truer word said about getting straight in the shower, it really does help. That's not to say I do it, mind."