Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Pentonville]

gents. please stop congratulating me for being alive still. i have achieved nothing. im in a world of shit. and proper confused. not mentally but i have Sophie's choice. go back to my home in France and try to get a job or go to doctors here ad get signed off and go on benefits but be classed as mentally unwell for benefits and be homeless so prob wont be able to see my son anyway. i aint mentally ill. im stressed. its different. has nobody got a fucking lovely guest house in the countryside where i can sit for 5 days calmly and plot my comeback. alone. i need space to collect my sober thoughts man.

[Westham67]

It is very much like a virtual with the regulars and those who pop in now and again My kids are far more mature than I was at 19 or 20. Our plan is to get a 2 bedroom place to get the Mrs here. The boy will join the Navy daughter with join (no link ) the NHS as an apprentice. I will get some details tomorrow about getting some support from DWP

[Sydney_Iron]

"Also posting this stuff on WHO and with many of us having been here for years or even decades!! Laughing, ridiculing, arguing or cunting each other on occasions WHO unlike specific forums for anxiety/depression is maybe a bit more personal and easier to relate too, its like a virtual pub if you like where you’re a regular, then of course the West Ham aspect, although fuck me supporting this club much of the time is depressing at the best of times!!!! Hope the MOD, s whoever they are? Still not sure after all these years, keep this thread pinned at the top, will perhaps be helping regulars and others for years to come."

[Sydney_Iron]

"Respect to all who are posting on here, I hope in some way just doing that helps, also showing others they are not alone as expect that’s a huge thing to battle in itself that horrible feeling of being alone, been there im afraid… Expect their could be those who don’t post but are following things or checking in now and then, expect this thread is a help to them, just reading what others are going through or feeling and can relate to it, so to all you who are posting Hats off and the greatest respect to you for that, give yourself a pat on the back at the very least you may well have helped save lives and given people not least yourselves hope and belief to get through it. COYI"

[Westham67]

These days you can get face time with Whatsapp and messenger. The time will fly and you have a lot to live for now mate and am very pleased you are sorted

[Pentonville]

Cheers gents.

[Westham67]

ts contributing Mike not butting in mate

[Mike Oxsaw]

"Pentonville 4:59 Sat Jan 29 Pardon butting in on this but when I separated from my children's mother, they were 6 years, 2 years & 3 months old (the children, not the mother). She denied me access for 3 years from that moment on and tried to write me (and all my family) out of their lives. When I eventually was granted access again, it took less than 10-15 minutes for the 2 elder ones to start recalling my time with them before the separation - the youngest accepted me because her sisters did and within a month, I was ""Dad"" again, despite their mother insisting they only use that title for her new husband. In short - he won't forget you."

[Westham67]

Younger they were 1 year and 2 and half years when I went to Taiwan

[Westham67]

Yes I was always going for months on end and coming back and seeing my kids

[Pentonville]

Genuine question 67 - so u reckon I should just say I can't see him for a few months and go back to my home to France and get on my feet again? Do u think that he will remember me (he is 3) Genuine question

[Westham67]

"Marc. You are trying to do everything at one time. Get yourself a job a stabilize first and then think of other things your son will still be there for 6 months or so. Thanks, Syders. I am classing today as day one. Where in the past has gone but I still suffering the results of it but I need to push on and get Mrs's settlement visa maybe in 6 months she is here. I have lots of doctors and council housing people on my side when I go for government support"

[Mike Oxsaw]

"Get it out there. Can I say ""It's better out than in"" without having a Frankie Howerd moment? No shame in sharing your shit; you never know who might throw a useful idea your way. Often feels it's you against the world when families drift apart - I felt the same at times when I couldn't see my three. You may have to push the NHS to get an earlier appointment, which can be frustrating in itself, but it may give you a focal point for a few days. You're also young enough to consider a career change, so that might be something else to look into."

[Pentonville]

Anyway ignore that. I'm ranting and I have nobody to rant to. I'm angry and pissed off but yeah sober dont worry.

[Pentonville]

"I've signed up for therapy on NHS but it takes 28 fucking days to review my case. Doctor who was helping me in cannes has fucking bad covid so can't talk to him at moment. Im homeless jobless and only here cos my son is. I have to go back to France as its where I have a home but then I can't see raff. I'm fucked royally. What am.i supposed to do. Totally lost. Alive but lost or dead and having nice things said about you. I mean Jesus. Obvs if I was gonna be dead nyself it would have happened in December but now its mentally dead. I put out a Facebook begging for work in France. Had over 100 comments. 60 were telling me to keep chin up 15 were women saying I should respect myself for giving up good years of my life to stay at home with son and other 25 were agencies and job offers. Not one thing came to anything. All bollox. Virtue signalling. All trying to mine my cv for Contacts for themselves (usual agency practice in quiet times) So basically this week is it. If I can't find a home or a job. Job would be better. I'm going back to France next weekend. And prob won't see my son for a while which is fucking shit. By the way, father's for justice charge 200.00 for 60min phone call and 3k for them to deal with ur case. I thought they were a fucking charity. I can't work in music industry again here cos I was a whistle-blower and then I thought well I know booze and I can hold a chat so I applied for a job at wetherspoons Gatwick. Literally the lowest of of low but shows I'm not to proud. They told me they can't employ me unless I work a Thursday or Friday or Saturday which are the days I can have raff. So I said I can't but I will do all day and all night Sunday to Wednesday and I meant all day and all night till 6am no worries. She said "" we are a pub so we are quiet on those days"" babe ur an airport. What the fuck are u saying. People fly out on all days. I would be in pub at Heathrow or Gatwick at 6am having a beer before first flight and it was mobbed on a Monday or a Sunday or a Friday. It's my age. I'm 44. Washed up. Gave my family everything and I've been betrayed. Victim of a massive heist."

[Sydney_Iron]

"Sorry to hear this 67, Feel like words are worthless sometime but for what its worth, just take it one day at a time, see the light through the tunnel, even take a step back and look at things and what your thinking from the third person perspective even though its you, if that make sense. Just hang in there and believe it will all come good again, you’re a decent fella from meeting you a few times, sure many think the same, don’t slip backwards, go forwards. All the very best mate."

[Westham67]

"I got a response from White Pony and both of us are having a struggle. I was thinking when I was at work on Thursday how fragile I must be if I had suicidal thoughts about a rental deal going south. I called my GP and I get counseling as well, I withdrew my NR applications and deleted my LinkedIn profile. I cannot handle stress antmore"

[Sniper]

"Really pleased to hear all that Pents, great to hear things are working out better for you"

[Westham67]

"Well done Pentonville going to send you a WHO mail buts it is on the blink Try and stay out of the boozer and alcohol that the biggest trigger for other things spareroom.com for a room. CV library for part-time work Thanks, Sniper I am not sure they can unravel me now. I n a letter I have from the clinical psychologist it says I have a mood disorder and low mood which means I am permanently depressed. Getting this 1 bedroom place has taken from the 4th of January 4th to yesterday to move in 28th the stress put me into a very dark place on Monday night I could not go to work yesteday"

[Fortunes Hiding]

Love the support and help here for a fellow hammer. IRONS

[wanstead_hammer]

"Yeh, good to hear you’re on the mend Pentonville and the fog’s clearing. Focus on your saucepan and I’m sure everything else will fall into place. All the best."

[wanstead_hammer]

"Yeh, good to hear you’re on the mend Pentonville and the fog’s clearing. Focus on your saucepan and I’m sure everything else will fall into place. All the best."

[Pentonville]

x

[Tomshardware]

"Good to hear from you Pents, you should write a book one day. Keep going, things are on the up for you."

[FrancoisVanDerElst]

"Glad t hear things are moving forward Pentonville Can’t underestimate how much help a good doctor can be Be patient , and you will get back to where you need to be Good luck"